02-06-2019, 01:01 PM
(02-06-2019, 11:30 AM)Shannon Wrote: First, do you have a bald spot or are you shaving your head? If you have a bald spot, you should start shaving your head. Having a horseshoe or a monk-style bald spot is significantly less attractive than a fully bald head. Being bald by choice instead of half way between hair and bald is also a significant indicator of self confidence and self esteem.
Second, you're likely getting this reaction because you're in two different states right now. Transitioning from where you were to where you're going, and they see this, and they don't yet "believe" it because you're not congruent subconsciously yet.
Case in point, the bald jokes were a shit test. If you were who they subconsciously perceive you to be saying you are, bald jokes wouldn't bother you. In fact when people make jokes about me being bald, I laugh with 'em and make more jokes about it. Then they stop making jokes, because they see I am not going to be brought down by it. I am too self confident. My frame is too strong. By responding the way you did, allowing it to be taken personally, letting it hurt, and reacting as you did as a result, you were saying, "Yes, I am not secure about my baldness, and this hurts, but I don't want to show that. Stay away from me."
The key is to own your baldness, completely. In my case, it goes like this.
I am bald. I look better shaving my head bald than I do having what hair I have left, so I choose to do what is within my power to look my best and I choose baldness with a goatee over going bald. I like the way I look and I genuinely don't care what other people think. If they like it, great. If not, great. It's none of my business what they think of me, and none of their business what I choose to do or why. Me being bald will weed out the people who don't like bald guys. They aren't on my radar anyway, so nothing lost. I accept that I am bald, and I make this my identity. Some day in the future, maybe I will have enough skill and knowledge with subliminals to make a program that will return my hair to me, but if not, I'm happy with what I have.
If you're not shaving your head, I strongly recommend you seriously consider it. It looks a LOT better than a horseshoe or a bald spot up top. And if you're trying to comb it over, you are definitely in need of a shave.
For the time being, again, stop looking for external results. Take this time to work on yourself. Right now what you need to be doing is working on improving your self image, self esteem and level of self respect.
Have you ever heard of Fat Joe? He's a bald rapper who's big enough that his stage name is "Fat Joe". See what he's doing here? He's owning it. He's big, so he owns it. He's bald, but he owns it. He doesn't let what others think of him hurt him - he owns his reality and his frame. Those who like it, like it; those who don't, are welcome to go find something else. He doesn't care, because he is what and who he is, and that is that. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fat_Joe
That's what you need to be doing. Accept what and where you are. Own it. Then, make your moves to become what you want to end up being. The problem most people have is they either can't accept themselves and own what and who they are, or they can't do that and then keep going towards what they want to be. It's all about priorities. Trust me, Joe here doesn't lack for sexually intimate female affections.
You have the potential to do all this and more. You just need to understand how to get there. DMSI will take care of it in time, but it'll go faster for you and be easier if you're doing what I'm saying at a conscious level also.
@Shannon
I understand what you are saying. I have a buzz cut of 2 mm, I shave my head completely since I was 17. That’s the thing what hurts. No more hair, I used to be a good looking guy, thick black hair, my sexual market value has decreased alot, also by becoming fat...
I need to own it and internalize it, I really want to, but at a subconscious level I still have to do a lot of work! I don’t know how I can remove these blockages. What I do know is that I feel better about myself with gym training and dieting efforts.
I could really rock this bald look while being shredded and under 10% bodyfat. It still needs time, I estimate I will be down to 12% before the summer starts.
I’m on a ketogenic diet with intermittent fasting, it’s a great body hack to lose fatmass.
I’m improving every day, step by step, I make every day count, by going to the gym and keeping my diet in check.
