04-20-2013, 06:24 PM
So a few more things have started to click the last couple of days. The bad patch I went through and worked through a few days ago has bought some inner clarity both around relating to women and relating to myself.
I was out with a friend last night and ended up with a slightly older women (I seem to be doing that a bit lately). She was interesting to talk to and we got along well, so just being in the moment and not thinking just lead the way to where the night ended up. Afterwards the friend who I was out with asked me how I do it, how I seem to end up with a girl every night i'm out with him. This got me thinking and bought a few realizations about.
When I end up with a women the following happen
* I'm relaxed and confident - I'm not load or out going I am just me
* I listen - I mean really listen I think 95% of guys these days can't listen to a women (I used to never understand women saying I wish guys would listen and thought that I did already listen, but I now do and realize that I never did)
* I'm ridiculously present - this falls back into listening, I'm just in the moment and completely present with her. It's almost like I fall in love with her for however long the encounter is but without any neediness what so ever
* I love women - I genuinely love talking to women
* I play and tease her - without even thinking light teasing and playfulness comes about like I would with my little sister
* I'm unattached to any outcome
* I'm genuine and honest - I say it like it is not what I think will get her into bed (The women that I was with last night kept saying 'you're so genuine' why aren't there more guys like you around).
That was the things I came up with when I really looked into what was going on. I still struggle with really attractive women even though they are attracted to me (My mate last night commented on this very attractive women from a few nights back that kept giving me the fuck me eyes and wouldn't stop talking to me or about me to others). I think this comes down to feeling i'm good enough and feeling I deserve really attractive women. I know that the way I am now will be attractive to really good looking women but for some reason still struggle with feeling like I'm good enough. I'm not complaining though the progress all round has been huge
I was out with a friend last night and ended up with a slightly older women (I seem to be doing that a bit lately). She was interesting to talk to and we got along well, so just being in the moment and not thinking just lead the way to where the night ended up. Afterwards the friend who I was out with asked me how I do it, how I seem to end up with a girl every night i'm out with him. This got me thinking and bought a few realizations about.
When I end up with a women the following happen
* I'm relaxed and confident - I'm not load or out going I am just me
* I listen - I mean really listen I think 95% of guys these days can't listen to a women (I used to never understand women saying I wish guys would listen and thought that I did already listen, but I now do and realize that I never did)
* I'm ridiculously present - this falls back into listening, I'm just in the moment and completely present with her. It's almost like I fall in love with her for however long the encounter is but without any neediness what so ever
* I love women - I genuinely love talking to women
* I play and tease her - without even thinking light teasing and playfulness comes about like I would with my little sister
* I'm unattached to any outcome
* I'm genuine and honest - I say it like it is not what I think will get her into bed (The women that I was with last night kept saying 'you're so genuine' why aren't there more guys like you around).
That was the things I came up with when I really looked into what was going on. I still struggle with really attractive women even though they are attracted to me (My mate last night commented on this very attractive women from a few nights back that kept giving me the fuck me eyes and wouldn't stop talking to me or about me to others). I think this comes down to feeling i'm good enough and feeling I deserve really attractive women. I know that the way I am now will be attractive to really good looking women but for some reason still struggle with feeling like I'm good enough. I'm not complaining though the progress all round has been huge
The only person in life that can ever hold you back is yourself. So get out of your own way and start living the life you always dreamed of
