Catman,
I don't want to get to involved in this discussion but there 1 thing that is striking to me.
It is your stand about casual sex. It seems to me that as long as you find the idea disgusting, having DMSI work is an impossibility.
1 major thing that is stopping women from having sex is the fear of being judged.
IMHO, if you were believing that casual sex is something normal and beautiful that 2 consenting adults that are attracted to each other want and like to share together, this would open up a new realm of possibilities.
Are you at least able to imagine yourself, with all the conditions right, being cool with casual sex?
Be honest with yourself. I know from experience that if there is something that I wasn't able to get, I was able to fool myself by back-rationalizing that the inaccessible thing was in fact a very bad thing so that I could feel better about myself and my shortcomings... (sex and money being 2 of those things...)
One possible scenario is if you don't have yet gained sexual confidence. There is nothing to like from a situation where the only aspect that you will be appreciated for is your sexual performance by a stranger if you are unsure about your performance yourself.
Otherwise, if you enjoy some occasional porn, you should enjoy casual sex. The only difference is that one is threatening your ego and the other is safe for it.
I don't want to get to involved in this discussion but there 1 thing that is striking to me.
It is your stand about casual sex. It seems to me that as long as you find the idea disgusting, having DMSI work is an impossibility.
1 major thing that is stopping women from having sex is the fear of being judged.
IMHO, if you were believing that casual sex is something normal and beautiful that 2 consenting adults that are attracted to each other want and like to share together, this would open up a new realm of possibilities.
Are you at least able to imagine yourself, with all the conditions right, being cool with casual sex?
Be honest with yourself. I know from experience that if there is something that I wasn't able to get, I was able to fool myself by back-rationalizing that the inaccessible thing was in fact a very bad thing so that I could feel better about myself and my shortcomings... (sex and money being 2 of those things...)
One possible scenario is if you don't have yet gained sexual confidence. There is nothing to like from a situation where the only aspect that you will be appreciated for is your sexual performance by a stranger if you are unsure about your performance yourself.
Otherwise, if you enjoy some occasional porn, you should enjoy casual sex. The only difference is that one is threatening your ego and the other is safe for it.
