Bengal's Man Journal

[Cortez]

Welcome Bengal.
Personally, I am confident I do not need women anymore and therefore I am uncomfortable with the idea of babysitting for myriads of their emotions. It might never end.
I learned to take care of myself so profoundly in a couple of last weeks, I will not expect less from others in this area.
Yes, I love giving support, sometimes, but it is interestingly much better if it comes from an unattached neutral ground. Larger and more profound perspective, one might say.
Moreover, I know many girls who dream about wild sex with a stranger..

Adventurous types, self-independent, not always damaged "nut-case" as some idealists would like to believe.
Well, sure, they are not perfect. Who is?
But it does not work well for me to seek some kind of emotional stimulation or completion in women now.
They are interesting, getting to know them and seducing them, it is all interconnected to me now.
I feel very, very sexually polarized towards women, due to my uncompromising attitude about what the man is here to ultimately do.
But because I am happy and non-needy at the same time.... Crazy things are starting to manifest.
I think that it is itself an ingrained belief that sex = relationship and I am shaking it down really fast now.
Actually, I am sometimes tempted to think that time is our illusion and it does not really exist as far as our soul is concerned.
So relationship can last a day and have more colours and feelings that some relationships which last for years.
Attraction for me is based on flowing with the moment and creating a lot of unpredictablity while being sexually persistent. This somewhat negates the idea of looking for a long-term relationship, which is an outcome dependent behaviour. You will be sooooooooo careful and self-constrained when you have this outcome on your mind...The intensity of your being might diminish...
So you might want to make up your mind and decide between looking for a great woman, which seems like a self-fullfilling prophecy to me, or being OK with open-ended adventure as it comes and focusing your energy on giving your unique gift to the world fully.
Every woman has something interesting to play with and explore.
So I do not look for "a great one" anymore.
Boy, was it a pain to live this pattern.
I feel I can complete myself and explore new horizons in millions of other ways.
I disagree with Shannon also on the that pick-up is damaging to girls.
It seems contradictory to recommended John's Alexander book on Alpha Male as well.
I disagree that sex without getting to know everything about the other one first is superficial.
In fact, it can be incredibly exciting to sleep with an unknown person.
Novelty factor...Reason why chemistry often dissapears in relationships, sometimes all the more with emotional closeness.
It can get very wild and animalistic too because you know you are not gonna see each other again, so you drop away any restrain....
I wish you could hear what some of my female friends had to say on this....I mean before I disappeared from my social circle of course
If you create an attraction and give a good sex, it is a gift or at least a shared thing.
Anything else is a victim mentality.
I will not participate in sex which feels like victimizing someone.
A woman who so much as flashes this attitude at me just gave me a clear signal she is not worth it.
Even if it is a hardcore dominant thing, it must be mutually satisfying.
And women are only as fragile as they make themselves (or not).
Also, the way I see it, if you create a magic moment for a girl in any way, you give her a gift of an amazing memory.
Who can say if you two are going to grow and die old together anyway?
You are probably not.
So amazing memories are what counts.
I feel my point strongly here...

You're starting to sound like Zan Perrion. The moment is all we realy have and noone is perfect. Women are wonderful creatures when you no longer need any kind of validation from them. When you cut out your "mommy needs" that most guys need from women in the form of validation and praise, then you become a self actualized man and you can actually start to have real connections with women and the time you spend together can be for the rest of your life or a few days, but the point is that you go on your intuition because your emotional guidance system is there for a reason and when you actually have a HEALTHY one which we all here are working to achieve then you don't question it. You always know when it's time to part ways as well, not having a nasty break up, but instead looking back fondly on the time you had together for what it is worth. I have had relationships like that and any time I think of those girls I smile and I'd like to think they do the same. This subject has fascinated me for so long, it's so nice to hear someone with the same sentiments. You're absolutely right about looking for a "great girl" as well because what is that anyway? That is a very painful and unneccesary cycle to live in.

Boy, I was in the mood to write that out for sure. I had a great night last night that summed up this whole mentality. I cherish moments like that and they are becoming more and more frequent with every passing day.