Quote:Haha - love the name - reminds me of the good ol' Man Show.

So here I am committing to chronicling my full transformation into the Alpha Male / Ladies man. I entered the pickup community in 2005 and left sometime in 2007, though I still continued to do "pickup". Needless to say I've totally moved away from PU, and gone the path of the ladies man instead. Which is why I think we are all here, to make it so we can live our lives and beautiful women are an easy by-product of said life. Of course it all comes down to self-image, esteem and beliefs - the hardest part to transform, but once they are things come easily.

Quote:I had the urge to combine Alpha Male 2010 with Ultra Success, ASC, or ending self-sabotage, but from what I read it seems like AM takes care of most everything, so I figure simple is better. Especially since I've done so much work and to be honest sometimes less really is more. This goes out to some of you who are hitting it so hard that you don't even know what' real for you anymore. I offer that you take a step back and keep it simple...even if the "physical" results don't show as quickly, the internal changes will be more profound.

Quote:So I'm here to end the cycle of bad beliefs once and for all, the cycle of poor self image, about myself and beautiful women, etc, etc. and completely create a life of ease, fun, effortlessness with women, money, creativity, health and contentment. I'm more than halfway there, just a little ways to go. From what I've read here so far, I reckon for many of you it is closer than you think, ah how the thinking can just get in the way time and time again...

Quote:I've got DYD and the How to Become An Alpha Male book Shannon recommended in the Alpha Male 2010 instruction set, and I will comment on those as well. I'm almost done with the Alpha Male book, and will comment on that very soon.

Quote:I also do mirror affirmations, written affirmations, and energy work on my own in combo with the subs. I also am working with a "ladies man" teacher, but am not at liberty to say who, and he certainly isn't a PUA and never was a part of that community, but a true ladies man. I'm not paying for it, but have worked out a barter with him. Have to be fair and describe all I'm doing if this is to be an accurate journal of working with AM 2010, and beyond if I use more subliminals.

Quote:So yes I'm attacking it from all angles, but I do it intuitively and don't kill myself trying to cram everything in at once (otherwise my statement above wouldn't make sense about keeping it simple). Of course I know I need to do the subs everyday, but some days are at night only, and some days all day all night, but I'm not too worried about always trying to be listening to the subliminals. Can't forget about life and living here and now. So at times it will be difficult to discern what technique is affecting what belief change, probably, but I will do my best to decipher it all.

Quote:I'm looking forward to writing here for sure. I remember trying to do pickup journals and they were just no fun. Too many BS details and interaction breakdowns, and just felt like math more than an art. This I can feel will be much more fun. I found this place because of Cortez (TML) and mucho props to him for letting me know of Shannon and his work.

Quote:I have been using AM Set 1 for about 15 days so far. Nuff said, next entry will be learnings and observations, homies.

-Bengal

(09-28-2010, 10:05 AM)Shannon Wrote: Consider the wording on this. It sounds a bit dismissive of the value of women, beautiful women especially. If you meant it that way, do reconsider! There is not much that can equal the value of a good woman. If not, there's a way you can succeed even more as a ladies man: making sure that what you say can't be mistaken for a negative comment.

Quote:Indeed. As can too much self awareness, and not enough understanding of one's subject of interest. To truly succeed with women, you must understand women.

Quote:Comments on those aren't necessary, in case you're just feeling obigated. I'm not suggesting them to endorse pickup, but rather to explain certain things that are used in the script of the alpha male set so that every man can benefit from it. Some, like me when I was younger, would not understand some of the script fully without that because they haven't ever had a man to guide them. It works without, to be sure, but the better you understand certain useful concepts, the better it will work.

Quote:Doing affirmations is not recommended with subliminals because there exists the potential for script conflict. You don't know what's in the script of the alpha male set, and unless you're very skilled at scriptwriting, you also run the risk of accidental self harm. It will also affect how the alpha set works for you, and its as likely to enhance as to detract if you don't have properly written affirmations, or they conflict.

Quote:Pickup doesn't seem like the best way to go to me. Too much focus on shallowness and sex, and not enough appreciation for the woman as a human being. It's going to backfire in the long run, I think, and make women all that much harder to deal with for men, because women will have to protect themselves against more and more PUA stuff. At least, the ones who have emotions. I think it just leads to more battle of the sexes crap, really, as women start feeling used for sex because all these guys are just manipulating them into bed and walking. Same old stuff, different way of doing it, I guess.

(09-28-2010, 01:53 PM)Ryan Wrote: I agree that pick-up is bad in the sense that men manipulate women simply to take them home and have sex with them, which I think is what you were getting from my "Sex God" suggestion. My belief, and what I've learned over the year, when you are truly in the moment, there is such thing as a natural, subconscious connection that can be felt non-verbally. I've had this connection with women through eye contact, body language with one another, and actually have experienced it through presence alone. From that point it's only natural things lead to sex, unconsciously, you feel like the two of you are destined to be in bed together and by being in the moment, it will happen. I've been around women I've never met before and many I've dated for the first time who I have had this spark with but I wasn't living in the moment and instead of going with it, I ignored it. Eventually, I came to realize the women felt the same exact thing and wished I would have had sex with them on the spot. Nothing wrong with that, in my opinion, but yes, manipulation is bad, don't use for your own gain.

Inside we are very wild and animalistic but society has put barriers on us which control that. I think it's important, as men, we bring fourth all those animalistic desires. With our mindsets I believe it's only natural we will also bring that out of women.

(10-03-2010, 01:26 AM)Shannon Wrote: My goal is to promote the healthy, self fulfilled, self actualized and self realized man (and soon, woman). Pickup for the sake of endlessly repetitive meaningless sex and the usage of women for sex alone, objectification, etc. is what I am referring to. Learning how to meet, break the ice with, approach and deal with women is fine. I just don't think that either sex should be using the other for meaningless sex in a predatory or ongoing manner, as many of both genders would do.

I recommend those books because they explain certain important key ideas, which then are used to support the alpha male subliminal programming. We as a gender need to remember that we are men, not mice. That does not mean we should be treating women like they are nothing more than what their sex organs offer. That is what I am trying to get across with the apparent contradiction.

(09-28-2010, 01:37 PM)Majordomus Wrote: Welcome Bengal.
Personally, I am confident I do not need women anymore and therefore I am uncomfortable with the idea of babysitting for myriads of their emotions. It might never end.
I learned to take care of myself so profoundly in a couple of last weeks, I will not expect less from others in this area.
Yes, I love giving support, sometimes, but it is interestingly much better if it comes from an unattached neutral ground. Larger and more profound perspective, one might say.
Moreover, I know many girls who dream about wild sex with a stranger..

Adventurous types, self-independent, not always damaged "nut-case" as some idealists would like to believe.
Well, sure, they are not perfect. Who is?
But it does not work well for me to seek some kind of emotional stimulation or completion in women now.
They are interesting, getting to know them and seducing them, it is all interconnected to me now.
I feel very, very sexually polarized towards women, due to my uncompromising attitude about what the man is here to ultimately do.
But because I am happy and non-needy at the same time.... Crazy things are starting to manifest.
I think that it is itself an ingrained belief that sex = relationship and I am shaking it down really fast now.
Actually, I am sometimes tempted to think that time is our illusion and it does not really exist as far as our soul is concerned.
So relationship can last a day and have more colours and feelings that some relationships which last for years.
Attraction for me is based on flowing with the moment and creating a lot of unpredictablity while being sexually persistent. This somewhat negates the idea of looking for a long-term relationship, which is an outcome dependent behaviour. You will be sooooooooo careful and self-constrained when you have this outcome on your mind...The intensity of your being might diminish...
So you might want to make up your mind and decide between looking for a great woman, which seems like a self-fullfilling prophecy to me, or being OK with open-ended adventure as it comes and focusing your energy on giving your unique gift to the world fully.
Every woman has something interesting to play with and explore.
So I do not look for "a great one" anymore.
Boy, was it a pain to live this pattern.
I feel I can complete myself and explore new horizons in millions of other ways.
I disagree with Shannon also on the that pick-up is damaging to girls.
It seems contradictory to recommended John's Alexander book on Alpha Male as well.
I disagree that sex without getting to know everything about the other one first is superficial.
In fact, it can be incredibly exciting to sleep with an unknown person.
Novelty factor...Reason why chemistry often dissapears in relationships, sometimes all the more with emotional closeness.
It can get very wild and animalistic too because you know you are not gonna see each other again, so you drop away any restrain....
I wish you could hear what some of my female friends had to say on this....I mean before I disappeared from my social circle of course
If you create an attraction and give a good sex, it is a gift or at least a shared thing.
Anything else is a victim mentality.
I will not participate in sex which feels like victimizing someone.
A woman who so much as flashes this attitude at me just gave me a clear signal she is not worth it.
Even if it is a hardcore dominant thing, it must be mutually satisfying.
And women are only as fragile as they make themselves (or not).
Also, the way I see it, if you create a magic moment for a girl in any way, you give her a gift of an amazing memory.
Who can say if you two are going to grow and die old together anyway?
You are probably not.
So amazing memories are what counts.
I feel my point strongly here...