11-13-2012, 02:51 PM
Alec,
I'm glad you've come to this realization yourself. So many people go through college or university for no intrinsic reason. It's just "the next step" but they have no idea why they're there. My son's mother has put incredible pressure on him to attend college, and I've spent considerable time discussing paths for his life that may or may not include college.
Above all, I've put the most effort into establishing that no matter what, I love him. I may not like his actions, and I may be irritated by his choices, but love is not something he need to earn from his father, and is not something which he is in danger of losing.
I'm glad you've come to this realization yourself. So many people go through college or university for no intrinsic reason. It's just "the next step" but they have no idea why they're there. My son's mother has put incredible pressure on him to attend college, and I've spent considerable time discussing paths for his life that may or may not include college.
Above all, I've put the most effort into establishing that no matter what, I love him. I may not like his actions, and I may be irritated by his choices, but love is not something he need to earn from his father, and is not something which he is in danger of losing.
Fear is a liar.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway