02-06-2013, 08:04 AM
I can see the point of everyone here.
Being introverted have it's merits, but sometimes it may feel like a curse. Been there, felt that.
But the same goes for being all extroverted. Intro and extro are the means to where their reference is taken. Although external influence affects the self image of introverted people, the main focus of their reference is themselves. On other hand extroverted people focus on outside reference to create their self-image. If an extroverted person have a healthy environment, it's all good, while a bad environment can be very destructive to them.
Although negative enviroments affects introverted people as much, introverts may resist better, and depending on their self-image, it may even be motivational (like when you want to prove these negative people you can do what they say you can't).
But the label of introverted don't mean you'll be introverted all the time. It's your tendency, or where you usually looks for references to create your self-image.
With that said, I believe the problem is not by being introverted or extroverted. The issue seems to be at your self-image. The struggle you seem to be having when talking to others may be caused by you seeing yourself as not interesting enough for yourself, if so, how others can find you interesting? And thus working hard to present yourself as interesting, draining you.
Indeed there are reasons for most people to never change. People get depressed when compare thenselves for the ideal society bombards us with. Some may see light years of distance between their image and the ideal person and be disencouraged to go after it. Like being unfit to this world. And the same society keeps telling us that diversity is a good thing.
So it all comes to adaptability. You can be introverted and be extroverted when needed, but to do so, you need to feel confident in yourself.
Being introverted have it's merits, but sometimes it may feel like a curse. Been there, felt that.
But the same goes for being all extroverted. Intro and extro are the means to where their reference is taken. Although external influence affects the self image of introverted people, the main focus of their reference is themselves. On other hand extroverted people focus on outside reference to create their self-image. If an extroverted person have a healthy environment, it's all good, while a bad environment can be very destructive to them.
Although negative enviroments affects introverted people as much, introverts may resist better, and depending on their self-image, it may even be motivational (like when you want to prove these negative people you can do what they say you can't).
But the label of introverted don't mean you'll be introverted all the time. It's your tendency, or where you usually looks for references to create your self-image.
With that said, I believe the problem is not by being introverted or extroverted. The issue seems to be at your self-image. The struggle you seem to be having when talking to others may be caused by you seeing yourself as not interesting enough for yourself, if so, how others can find you interesting? And thus working hard to present yourself as interesting, draining you.
Indeed there are reasons for most people to never change. People get depressed when compare thenselves for the ideal society bombards us with. Some may see light years of distance between their image and the ideal person and be disencouraged to go after it. Like being unfit to this world. And the same society keeps telling us that diversity is a good thing.
So it all comes to adaptability. You can be introverted and be extroverted when needed, but to do so, you need to feel confident in yourself.