What if you could turn that around and start to tell yourself that all these girls will want to sleep with you when they find out your a virgin.
My friend who was a virgin until about 29, used to come to clubs with me. I was making out with this girl and we dropped them off home, unfortunately her friends ex was there so we didn't go in. But I seen her the next day and she told me that when her friend found out my friend was a virgin she was excited and wanted to sleep with him just because of that. If your comfortable with it, she will be too.
I think this video talks about turning 'your story' around. My internet is slow as I used all my downloads so I can't check.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJTP9_iJalQ
Another good thing i've been using lately is visualization. I've been using audio's that relax me, get me into a deep state and then I visualize.
Something like theta brainwaves you could use and when your deep then start visualizing, it's alot easier when your in a altered state.
You want to visualize the end result, having sex, get all your senses into it, taste, smell, sound, feel. And see it like it is actually happening, work on the feeling of 'I have this now'.
I've found that since doing it I have been less needy and have been feeling surprisingly sexually satisfied even though I haven't had sex for a while until last night.
Even try to add some visualizations of the start of the interaction, like you approaching a girl, getting her number, having fun with her, and having sex with her at the end.
It also sounds like something from earlier in your life may cause this, the fact that it was a bad experience when she french kissed you, when it should be a good experience. Maybe guilt about sex from your upbringing (e.g parents, religion.)
So maybe something else like EFT would be good to let go of some of that stuff also.
-Ben
My friend who was a virgin until about 29, used to come to clubs with me. I was making out with this girl and we dropped them off home, unfortunately her friends ex was there so we didn't go in. But I seen her the next day and she told me that when her friend found out my friend was a virgin she was excited and wanted to sleep with him just because of that. If your comfortable with it, she will be too.
I think this video talks about turning 'your story' around. My internet is slow as I used all my downloads so I can't check.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJTP9_iJalQ
Another good thing i've been using lately is visualization. I've been using audio's that relax me, get me into a deep state and then I visualize.
Something like theta brainwaves you could use and when your deep then start visualizing, it's alot easier when your in a altered state.
You want to visualize the end result, having sex, get all your senses into it, taste, smell, sound, feel. And see it like it is actually happening, work on the feeling of 'I have this now'.
I've found that since doing it I have been less needy and have been feeling surprisingly sexually satisfied even though I haven't had sex for a while until last night.
Even try to add some visualizations of the start of the interaction, like you approaching a girl, getting her number, having fun with her, and having sex with her at the end.
It also sounds like something from earlier in your life may cause this, the fact that it was a bad experience when she french kissed you, when it should be a good experience. Maybe guilt about sex from your upbringing (e.g parents, religion.)
So maybe something else like EFT would be good to let go of some of that stuff also.
-Ben
