10-10-2013, 04:03 AM
(10-05-2013, 04:37 PM)somebodynew Wrote: I dont know ... i need encouragment, other people would kill for my life. But in last 2 weeks i am so unhappy.
This is because all of your "problems" have to do with how people perceive you or what they think of you or are dependant in some way on others. Take a look:
(10-05-2013, 04:37 PM)somebodynew Wrote: - I am harder making connection with people.
- Peoples respect isnt anymore just that - sometimes i have feeling like they are affraid of me - and scared person is ready to do a lot of stuped things.
- i am loosing my social circle because of not going out.
Okay everything happens for a reasson, but i am becoming really lonely. Since i stoped going out ( if you read you will know i used to go out to clubs at least 3x per week ) now i am going out maybe once. I feel tired of it - but than again i am loosing my social circle.
You have to learn to be comfortable with yourself, and yourself only. You shouldn't need other people to not feel lonely, and this loneliness is a deep issue that you think will be cured with other people, but it won't. My guess is AM is getting you to deal with it yourself, so you don't rely on other people anymore.
(10-05-2013, 04:37 PM)somebodynew Wrote: First of all i am feeling lonely even though i am sorrounded with so manny people,
I feel hated so much ( and i am not )
New people who i meet are starting to hate me (this is reall happenign ) even though i am in my corner not doing anything ( Talking about girls here )
When i approach girls they are rude to me - this didnt happen before.
Ok two things here:
1. Your loneliness is probably manifesting itself into neediness which women will instantly pick up on. They can feel that you want them to fill a void in your emotions, and that repels them.
2. Some people will hate you in life, no way around it. Accept it as a fact of life and then you can just move on. Now, if people are disrespecting you, make a consequence. This doesn't mean you hit them or in the case of women, call them a "b*tch", but you could just walk away, knowing that YOU don't want rude women.
It seems to me you are coming at this with the mind set of "people should like me" but in truth, you shouldn't need them to. But because you DO, that is why you are having such issues.
Hope that helps.
