Non-neediness may be great for attraction however the dilemma is that in the moment when an opportunity arises, you may not have or lose interest or not recognize, not care or blow off an opportunity. Or, in the case of escalation, the same thing. So, is there a way to show interest while not coming off as needy or is showing interest in of itself a display of neediness. PUAs use a balance of showing interest with noninterest, such as push-pull, as an attempt to keep it balanced. However, what's the harm in showing some interest? So, I can understand why some people want to throw in Carpe Diem into alpha as an attempt to resolve this dilemma.
Below is a link to a video with a guy discussing the dilemma of having desire of something you want. Interesting perspective.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAeSgsQtY...ata_player
Just some thoughts. :-)
If that link doesn't work, try this. Hopefully this works.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAeSgsQtYNE&sns=em
Below is a link to a video with a guy discussing the dilemma of having desire of something you want. Interesting perspective.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAeSgsQtY...ata_player
Just some thoughts. :-)
If that link doesn't work, try this. Hopefully this works.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAeSgsQtYNE&sns=em