06-28-2015, 02:19 AM
Thanks Diamiteo, I meant limiting beliefs in general. Definitely some around dominance/assertiveness, but especially around women. WM which I'll be doing after AM I think is more designed around letting go of blocks that then make us more attractive to women. But if there are other beliefs we won't necessarily take the correct or self-aligned action. Let's say WM makes it so that when I walk in the room women stare at me and maybe approach me. I would still be operating from scripts that relate to the next step which is the actual engagement. Like even though I'm pouring alpha male subs into my mind I still don't 'go for what I want' such as when a girl joins our group I won't invade her space or touch her. Or when I consciously do it (step out of my comfort zone) I'm assessing the external information against my action. Basically, watching her reaction to see if something is amiss.
I hear you on the lines being blurred. I'm definitely assertive and somewhat dominant, but at the same time somebody else might have an opinion and I can be cool with it. Depends on the situation. Last night I had this plan for a bunch of us to move on then someone told me it wasn't happening. I was pissed because I'd just convinced some other people to come with. Turns out it was a misunderstanding but we ended up staying on the dancefloor at that place and I was cool with that.
I have a slight issue with removing limiting beliefs and not replacing them, although I get that you can't necessarily install beliefs generically.
haha I was talking more about physical touchy-feely. That is my core, I truly deep down love the connection that comes from touching a woman. It feels restricting to not touch them. But I don't, usually until anywhere from 5-15 minutes into the conversation when I realise I haven't touched them in ages and I better do something otherwise I'm going to get myself friend-zoned. I need to start practicing. Even just something as simple as moving in close to hear her (loud venue) then not returning to my spot. Although it would be better to move in against her shoulder so you're not right directly in her face.
But yeah the emotion part is true as well. I'm generally connected to my emotions in that I can express them and choose to. I can express emotions to guys as well although I do it a bit differently of course. But I haven't gotten to the point of going up to a girl and directly telling her what I like about her.
That's it. Most of what they're talking about is probably inane but at the same time I wonder why I don't talk about that stuff. Not necessarily all night, but I think I should have some random inane conversation ammunition. Lower my standards on what I talk about if that makes sense. I think I have a kind of blueprint of the 'right' conversation. Which involves the chilled silence when I have nothing I want to say. I went to a speed dating event a few weeks back. Got one friend connection and no date connections. I'm pretty sure it's my conversation blueprint that's screwing me up. I can be energetic and enthused when I'm talking about stuff and I can take what a girl offers me and drill down into the meaty, juicy real stuff. But most of my conversations I start are deep. Facts about peoples lives don't interest me. I don't want to know just that she's a lawyer. I like to find out if she enjoys it, what her favourite win has been, if it's her dream job, etc. Whereas girls like a guy who can make them laugh. Sure I've got stories to tell that have laughter-factor but I share them if they're relevant. Like if I want to share a kitchen disaster of mine, I would share that if we were talking about cooking already. But I wouldn't just tell the story out of the blue. I think that's my issue though, is that this blueprint needs to go. If I want to make the girl laugh then I should just tell a story and make her laugh.
Thanks for the reminder on writing. I did start daily journaling but stopped. I also have some of the belief finding and removing stuff like Lefkoe, Option Method, etc. I just haven't used them in a while. For some reason they seem too simple. Like I have a belief and I answer some questions. That's all they are. So at the end I expect fireworks. If I don't get fireworks (a sense of the belief shifting or changing) then I don't believe in it. Am I looking at those processes wrong? Are they more powerful than I give them credit?
Thanks!
I hear you on the lines being blurred. I'm definitely assertive and somewhat dominant, but at the same time somebody else might have an opinion and I can be cool with it. Depends on the situation. Last night I had this plan for a bunch of us to move on then someone told me it wasn't happening. I was pissed because I'd just convinced some other people to come with. Turns out it was a misunderstanding but we ended up staying on the dancefloor at that place and I was cool with that.
I have a slight issue with removing limiting beliefs and not replacing them, although I get that you can't necessarily install beliefs generically.
haha I was talking more about physical touchy-feely. That is my core, I truly deep down love the connection that comes from touching a woman. It feels restricting to not touch them. But I don't, usually until anywhere from 5-15 minutes into the conversation when I realise I haven't touched them in ages and I better do something otherwise I'm going to get myself friend-zoned. I need to start practicing. Even just something as simple as moving in close to hear her (loud venue) then not returning to my spot. Although it would be better to move in against her shoulder so you're not right directly in her face.
But yeah the emotion part is true as well. I'm generally connected to my emotions in that I can express them and choose to. I can express emotions to guys as well although I do it a bit differently of course. But I haven't gotten to the point of going up to a girl and directly telling her what I like about her.
That's it. Most of what they're talking about is probably inane but at the same time I wonder why I don't talk about that stuff. Not necessarily all night, but I think I should have some random inane conversation ammunition. Lower my standards on what I talk about if that makes sense. I think I have a kind of blueprint of the 'right' conversation. Which involves the chilled silence when I have nothing I want to say. I went to a speed dating event a few weeks back. Got one friend connection and no date connections. I'm pretty sure it's my conversation blueprint that's screwing me up. I can be energetic and enthused when I'm talking about stuff and I can take what a girl offers me and drill down into the meaty, juicy real stuff. But most of my conversations I start are deep. Facts about peoples lives don't interest me. I don't want to know just that she's a lawyer. I like to find out if she enjoys it, what her favourite win has been, if it's her dream job, etc. Whereas girls like a guy who can make them laugh. Sure I've got stories to tell that have laughter-factor but I share them if they're relevant. Like if I want to share a kitchen disaster of mine, I would share that if we were talking about cooking already. But I wouldn't just tell the story out of the blue. I think that's my issue though, is that this blueprint needs to go. If I want to make the girl laugh then I should just tell a story and make her laugh.
Thanks for the reminder on writing. I did start daily journaling but stopped. I also have some of the belief finding and removing stuff like Lefkoe, Option Method, etc. I just haven't used them in a while. For some reason they seem too simple. Like I have a belief and I answer some questions. That's all they are. So at the end I expect fireworks. If I don't get fireworks (a sense of the belief shifting or changing) then I don't believe in it. Am I looking at those processes wrong? Are they more powerful than I give them credit?
Thanks!
