04-15-2015, 03:05 AM
A bit of advice. Asking her when you're going out on a date is giving her the power. Don't ask her when.
When I want to out with a woman, I'll usually do this:
First I think of what movies are playing, or whatever I want to do on the date. Then I figure out the details and set everything up. Then I mention to her that I am going out to XYZ tonight. If she is the playful type, I'll be playful with her and turn it into a game. Say something like, "I hope you're not late for our date tonight." Assuming the date. Done properly, this can be fun and funny for you both, even if she is not interested, cannot, will not, etc.
If I am not sure she would respond to that approach well, I might say something like, "I'm going to dinner and a movie tonight." At this point, you also have two options. Option one is, be playfully ridiculous. Talk about your hot date, and then "accidentally" reveal that you're going on a date ith yourself. Then say that she should come along, just as a chaperone. Or something she will find amusing. It depends on the woman, and the circumstances, of course. The idea is to approach with her having fun with it, and without any pressure on her or you. If she cannot, will not, etc. you go do whatever you had planned without her. Or not. Nobody cares.
The other option I sometimes use is, mention that you're going out to do XYZ tonight, and say, "You should come with." Again, this is low to no pressure, and if she can't who cares? You had plans before she entered the picture, right? I usually use this one after spending some time talking with her and letting her get to know me, or get comfortable with me.
If she shoots me down, hard, I disqualify her and drop it. If she seems like she wants to, but can't, or isn't comfortable enough, I'll say, "Well maybe next time." and perhaps try again in a week.
In no case should you ever give her the power to decide when she's going out on a date by asking her when, because then she has too much power in the equation. It leads to disinterest on her part, because you're supposed to be the leader, and leaders lead, they don't ask. From there, things can get awkward fast.
When I want to out with a woman, I'll usually do this:
First I think of what movies are playing, or whatever I want to do on the date. Then I figure out the details and set everything up. Then I mention to her that I am going out to XYZ tonight. If she is the playful type, I'll be playful with her and turn it into a game. Say something like, "I hope you're not late for our date tonight." Assuming the date. Done properly, this can be fun and funny for you both, even if she is not interested, cannot, will not, etc.
If I am not sure she would respond to that approach well, I might say something like, "I'm going to dinner and a movie tonight." At this point, you also have two options. Option one is, be playfully ridiculous. Talk about your hot date, and then "accidentally" reveal that you're going on a date ith yourself. Then say that she should come along, just as a chaperone. Or something she will find amusing. It depends on the woman, and the circumstances, of course. The idea is to approach with her having fun with it, and without any pressure on her or you. If she cannot, will not, etc. you go do whatever you had planned without her. Or not. Nobody cares.
The other option I sometimes use is, mention that you're going out to do XYZ tonight, and say, "You should come with." Again, this is low to no pressure, and if she can't who cares? You had plans before she entered the picture, right? I usually use this one after spending some time talking with her and letting her get to know me, or get comfortable with me.
If she shoots me down, hard, I disqualify her and drop it. If she seems like she wants to, but can't, or isn't comfortable enough, I'll say, "Well maybe next time." and perhaps try again in a week.
In no case should you ever give her the power to decide when she's going out on a date by asking her when, because then she has too much power in the equation. It leads to disinterest on her part, because you're supposed to be the leader, and leaders lead, they don't ask. From there, things can get awkward fast.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
