11-13-2014, 02:43 AM
(11-12-2014, 10:20 PM)Shannon Wrote: It requires that you balance common sense and discretion with your honesty, but you must be honest. Whenever I have had multiple simultaneous girlfriends, I always managed it by telling the first one up front, that others will be along eventually and that if that's not cool, she can be just friends with me. But I don't say that until we are on the verge of a relationship so she knows me a bit better than "Hi! My name is Shannon!" Likewise, whenever I meet a second, or third or fourth or whatever, and she expresses interest, I tell her, "Look, I appreciate your interest and I like you too, but I need you to know, I already have 1/2/3/4/whatever girlfriends, and if you're willing to be the next addition, that's cool, but otherwise we can just be friends." Again, I wait until she knows me well enough to be able to decide from a point of view of some understanding of who I am and what I have to offer, instead of just a blind, ignorant knee-jerk reaction.
But allowing it to go too far, you'll start losing trust when you reveal the truth. The best revelation point, then, is after she has some understanding, but before she would lose trust if you told her. Always use the truth as a way to enable her to make informed decisions, and let her decide what she thinks and wants from there.
Thanks for your input Shannon , lion - king and anyone else in the future. I agree . Its like revealing your hand to someone either they choose to go with you or not. Another concept would be something like a ring , would the woman prefer a genuine diamond or non - genuine diamond and from this concept im withdrawing love , the power of her choice is based on nothing but choice itself.
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