08-25-2018, 08:20 PM
(08-25-2018, 02:04 PM)Shannon Wrote:(08-25-2018, 12:10 PM)mat422 Wrote:(08-25-2018, 11:55 AM)Shannon Wrote: Fun is natural result of ease and flow. You trying to hard. Try too hard kill fun. Stop with expectations and demands on self all time! You killing fun, man. Analyze this, examine that, trying to hard! Fun happen when you let go and just relax and enjoy! You start having fun now, okay?
Believe me Shannon, I really want to. But not putting expectations and demands on myself, I just don't know how to stop doing it. Hell, sometimes I end up putting expectations and demands on myself for letting go of expectations and demands! It's like a nasty circle of never having peace. I know I do this, I know it's my choice, I know I have to take responsibility for it, but I just don't know how to stop it. Just telling myself to relax and have fun causes more anxiety for me.
DMSI will help you with that. I don't remember if it's A side or both that has the particular module I am talking about.
The best way to handle breaking out of negative feedback loops is consciously being aware of what you are doing and when, and then when you see it, breaking the pattern.
Well hopefully it's both because I'm on B right now. Breaking the patterns is probably something I need to work on more.
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