05-18-2015, 05:45 PM
I haven't bothered to read much of what was written after you replied to my post. I don't think the rest really applies, but I will try to explain the answer to your questions as I understand it.
What you believe inwardly, you make real outwardly. This is almost entirely done at a subconscious level. And of course, like attracts like.
If you're looking to fuck and have meaningless sex, then you want to find females who also want to fuck and have meaningless sex. You have to attune yourself and your beliefs and energy to that of such women, and as they are typically very damaged and fucked up emotionally, mentally and sexually, they tend to believe that abuse = attention = love. They are therefore attracted to men who hate and mistreat women, because that's all they know and that's what they believe they deserve. Perpetuating that cycle is a very negative thing to do, and very costly in the end, in many ways. I strongly recommend against it.
The reason you attract those women is because when you hate women and treat them mysogynistically, you attract those women who want/need/choose that sort of treatment and repel the ones you actually want.
If you can do that, it means you have issues concerning women that are unresolved, and you need to find their source and heal them. Believe me, women do love sex, and if you play your cards right, you can be having all the sex you want with all the females you can handle and still be attracting more, with none of them being seriously damaged in ways that cause problems.
But women who are not damaged need to be cared about and loved. Otherwise anything that happens will be very temporary.
You also need to make being around you fun, and having sex with you fun. Girls just wanna have fun. Yes, cheesy, but true. The guys who are most fun tend to have no particular agenda and are typically fairly spontaneous.
Also keep in mind that no matter what there will be someone who loves you, someone who hates you and 98% won't give a rat's patoot.
When you get needy, you're going to drive women away unless they are either also needy or they want to use and manipulate you. Being emotional is good. But too much of a good thing is not a good thing, and a man must be, to some degree at least, in control of his emotional expressions.
If you are needy and mysogynistic, and bisexual, it sounds to me as if it is likely that there has been some sort of horribly painful experience(s) that involved one or more women not giving you the emotional connection/consideration you needed and you have decided that in an effort to have a chance to be happy at all, you would leave all your options open (be bisexual).
Neediness does not go away if you mask it with hate. It just gets masked.
Find the root of your mysogyny, and work on understanding that not all women are like the one(s) who have hurt you. Then, stop blaming all women for the actions of a few, and forgive those who have hurt you. Once you have achieved these things - and I mean truly achieved them - you'll experience a deep transformation that will allow you to see a huge change in your interactions with, and success with, women both sexually and romantically. I know this, because this was something I had to do after a multi-year and very painful and abusive relationship. I had to realize that it wasn't every woman, it was the women who I was attracting. And I was repeatedly attracting this type of woman because that's what I was looking for at some level. I could no more blame all women than I could say that the grass in my lawn was to blame, and when I accepted that and let go of my hate, and then refused to be mistreated again, and understood that my mistreatment came from not valuing myself relative to women, I started having wonderful relations and relationships with women.
Your issue is a little different, but you very much seem to need to understand, forgive, let go of hate and move on.
What you believe inwardly, you make real outwardly. This is almost entirely done at a subconscious level. And of course, like attracts like.
If you're looking to fuck and have meaningless sex, then you want to find females who also want to fuck and have meaningless sex. You have to attune yourself and your beliefs and energy to that of such women, and as they are typically very damaged and fucked up emotionally, mentally and sexually, they tend to believe that abuse = attention = love. They are therefore attracted to men who hate and mistreat women, because that's all they know and that's what they believe they deserve. Perpetuating that cycle is a very negative thing to do, and very costly in the end, in many ways. I strongly recommend against it.
The reason you attract those women is because when you hate women and treat them mysogynistically, you attract those women who want/need/choose that sort of treatment and repel the ones you actually want.
If you can do that, it means you have issues concerning women that are unresolved, and you need to find their source and heal them. Believe me, women do love sex, and if you play your cards right, you can be having all the sex you want with all the females you can handle and still be attracting more, with none of them being seriously damaged in ways that cause problems.
But women who are not damaged need to be cared about and loved. Otherwise anything that happens will be very temporary.
You also need to make being around you fun, and having sex with you fun. Girls just wanna have fun. Yes, cheesy, but true. The guys who are most fun tend to have no particular agenda and are typically fairly spontaneous.
Also keep in mind that no matter what there will be someone who loves you, someone who hates you and 98% won't give a rat's patoot.
When you get needy, you're going to drive women away unless they are either also needy or they want to use and manipulate you. Being emotional is good. But too much of a good thing is not a good thing, and a man must be, to some degree at least, in control of his emotional expressions.
If you are needy and mysogynistic, and bisexual, it sounds to me as if it is likely that there has been some sort of horribly painful experience(s) that involved one or more women not giving you the emotional connection/consideration you needed and you have decided that in an effort to have a chance to be happy at all, you would leave all your options open (be bisexual).
Neediness does not go away if you mask it with hate. It just gets masked.
Find the root of your mysogyny, and work on understanding that not all women are like the one(s) who have hurt you. Then, stop blaming all women for the actions of a few, and forgive those who have hurt you. Once you have achieved these things - and I mean truly achieved them - you'll experience a deep transformation that will allow you to see a huge change in your interactions with, and success with, women both sexually and romantically. I know this, because this was something I had to do after a multi-year and very painful and abusive relationship. I had to realize that it wasn't every woman, it was the women who I was attracting. And I was repeatedly attracting this type of woman because that's what I was looking for at some level. I could no more blame all women than I could say that the grass in my lawn was to blame, and when I accepted that and let go of my hate, and then refused to be mistreated again, and understood that my mistreatment came from not valuing myself relative to women, I started having wonderful relations and relationships with women.
Your issue is a little different, but you very much seem to need to understand, forgive, let go of hate and move on.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!