(08-11-2014, 09:45 PM)DanAmerson Wrote: I want to figure out exactly the dynamic I want when it comes to dating multiple women;
I've been dating multiple women for some 6-9 months now and I'm getting quite comfortable with it. I highly recommend the book How to create and maintain open relationships with women. I also bought the first 2 books from the series and didn't personally get much from them, but that 3rd one was really good and unique for what the title says.
(08-12-2014, 01:10 AM)swisston Wrote: Most women don't take kindly to you dating more than one woman!
^^ Lots of limiting beliefs there. I know because because I used to believe that. My brain isn't working 100% now, but off the top of my head:
-to be with a woman sexually, I should offer her exclusivity
-My time, company, presence, sex, etc isn't valuable enough on its own
-it's wrong to date multiple women, and therefore I should hide it. If the woman later on finds out I've been hiding it, or lying about it, she will feel betrayed and get angry at me
-women are not open to open relationships (I'm finding they're open to all kinds of things, as long as they know they don't have to admit it in public, they can trust you, and you're being open & appreciative towards them. They will TELL YOU that they're not open like that, yet they seem to be perfectly natural with it once its gets going and becomes familiar)
-its wrong to be a player/gigolo/whatever. Guys like that are not as honest, ethical or empathetic as ones that only date a single woman at a time
-I want to own my girl and I don't want her dating other guys.
-When I'm dating a girl, I need to keep contact with her throughout the day/week.
-I should now what my girl is doing and, if she asks, I should tell her what I'm doing/thinking/planning
-quality girls are not going to put up with this
-I need a girlfriend, and therefore can't risk it. Its hard to find a good girl and this might drive her away
Thoughts, opinions and beliefs subject to change without prior notice.