05-17-2015, 09:32 PM
(05-17-2015, 07:34 PM)TheRealJustin Wrote: I'll have to look into that tea, and yea Tyler is awesome, totally made pickup make sense to me and made me stop like, idk, I guess you could say I stopped looking for some secret answer that doesn't exist, I'm not sure how else to say it.
Dude, i know EXACTLY what you mean. I'm still trying to get over that, but I definitely know it. Tonight I spoke to some girls and I realized I was trying to force the interaction with tensing up lol. as if making a physical effort could change HER somehow lol. Definitely magic-pill syndrom.
(05-17-2015, 07:34 PM)TheRealJustin Wrote: I did look at this gorgeous Mexican girl on the bus, I can't even explain how attracted I was to her and we locked eyes, I smiled friendly and she looked away, then dug in her purse, started putting on lip balm or something, and then started running her hands through her hair and playing with her hair like crazy. It was so obvious I could have talked to her, got her number, went out with her sometime and had her be my girlfriend, and I would LOVE to have that girl be my girlfriend and I don't even want a girlfriend, but I just couldn't say anything. Just couldn't do it. That was like an hour ago. It's not fear of rejection because I couldn't care less about rejection, I don't know what it is, but I am going to overcome it somehow.
That's good man! You know how long it took ME to overcome mutual smiling? I STILL have trouble with it.
The main thing is: YOU NOTICED IT. Awareness comes first, now all you have to do is push the boundaries. Keep pushing and pushing yourself as you become more and more aware. It really is that simple.
Also i totally know about not having fear of rejection but still being paralyzed, because I had/have that. I think it's when we think, consciously or unconsciously, that even if we DO act, nothing will come of it. Or, in your case, might just be fear of success? What do you think?