I think “relief” is the best possible descriptive word that could be applied to me and my addiction.
Some of the definitions of relief are:
Freeing of somebody from anxiety: a release from anxiety or tension, or the feeling of release, lightness, and cheerfulness that accompanies this….Yes
Factor that ends anxiety: a factor that ends a painful or stressful experience such as pain, hunger, or boredom…Yes
Stark contrast creating diversion: a factor forming a contrast to the general character of something else, especially something that breaks the monotony or tension of a longer experience…Yes
These all define reasons as to why I smoke or smoked. Is there anything in this sub that addresses relief?
I think your mother was very brave and lucky drinking alcohol after knowing and addressing she was alcoholic. I know many a recovering alcoholic who cannot even use mouthwash because of the small alcohol content. In the same respect I wish I could be the type of person who could smoke on occasion of only when I really enjoyed it, but that’s impossible and not the way addiction works, or at least for me.
I do feel that fear plays a big part in all addiction and I know it’s your go to reason of choice with most difficulties that people have when trying to change in some way. But isn’t it possible that perhaps the 75% percent of the addiction that is gone, is basically just the addiction part, whether it be physical or psychological? Couldn’t it simply be that the 25% that’s left is just the liking and enjoyment that I got out of smoking? Does it always have to be a fear issue? You’re right, I don’t need to smoke, I do want to. But sometimes not because I’m afraid to not be able to but just because I like to. It does the same for me as maybe it does for someone who has a glass of wine after a long day. And if it’s true that 25% is just about me liking it, I suppose that will just have to diminish in time. I suppose you will turn me liking it around into that being my fear also. But I don’t think everything is always about fear.
In any case, I hope to lose both the fear and the enjoyment of smoking with this sub because I don't want to do anymore quit smoking subs after this. Either it's gonna work or it's not.
Some of the definitions of relief are:
Freeing of somebody from anxiety: a release from anxiety or tension, or the feeling of release, lightness, and cheerfulness that accompanies this….Yes
Factor that ends anxiety: a factor that ends a painful or stressful experience such as pain, hunger, or boredom…Yes
Stark contrast creating diversion: a factor forming a contrast to the general character of something else, especially something that breaks the monotony or tension of a longer experience…Yes
These all define reasons as to why I smoke or smoked. Is there anything in this sub that addresses relief?
I think your mother was very brave and lucky drinking alcohol after knowing and addressing she was alcoholic. I know many a recovering alcoholic who cannot even use mouthwash because of the small alcohol content. In the same respect I wish I could be the type of person who could smoke on occasion of only when I really enjoyed it, but that’s impossible and not the way addiction works, or at least for me.
I do feel that fear plays a big part in all addiction and I know it’s your go to reason of choice with most difficulties that people have when trying to change in some way. But isn’t it possible that perhaps the 75% percent of the addiction that is gone, is basically just the addiction part, whether it be physical or psychological? Couldn’t it simply be that the 25% that’s left is just the liking and enjoyment that I got out of smoking? Does it always have to be a fear issue? You’re right, I don’t need to smoke, I do want to. But sometimes not because I’m afraid to not be able to but just because I like to. It does the same for me as maybe it does for someone who has a glass of wine after a long day. And if it’s true that 25% is just about me liking it, I suppose that will just have to diminish in time. I suppose you will turn me liking it around into that being my fear also. But I don’t think everything is always about fear.
In any case, I hope to lose both the fear and the enjoyment of smoking with this sub because I don't want to do anymore quit smoking subs after this. Either it's gonna work or it's not.
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