01-24-2013, 09:44 AM
Patti... you do know that it's you who makes the decision to smoke or not, right? You gave up the physical addiction long ago. This is all psychological subconscious response at this point. This is you resisting.
Nobody else who has used the program properly - and I don't doubt that you have, by the way - has had these issues. They all forgot to smoke and didn't even realize they'd quit, usually for between 5 hours and a couple weeks after they stopped completely. None of them had stress, or anxiety, or emotional upset, or weight gain, or any need, want or desire to smoke after that point, never mind having to pray for help with it. In fact I have had reports of people doing the incredibly idiotic "Smoking Test", where they try to re-addict themselves by smoking a cigarette "just to see if I am addicted still", and both not finishing the cigarette and not wanting to, or smoking after that.
Incredibly idiotic because that's how most smokers get caught again. Please, don't try it.
Ultimately, there's a part of you being stubborn. Refusing to cooperate. Refusing to allow itself to be influenced. Resisting the program. I've given this a lot of thought over the last few days, partly because I wanted to really understand it, and partly because it so upset me that I wanted to calm down before I posted a response. Here's what I have concluded.
In spite of all my efforts to the point that you have been given access to, you're still resisting. I believe that is in large part because you feel as through you are obligated to quit. Guilt, shame, fear, whatever the reason is, you feel obligated and you resent that. And that resentment is triggering the classic smoker's "fuck you" response. Resistance.
So, Patti, understanding that, I hereby absolve you of any and all guilt, shame or fear you may feel on my behalf, and any obligation you have or perceive yourself as having. You are welcome to do as you please. Finish the program, or not. Smoke, or not. It always has been, and always will be your choice. I don't want you to smoke because you got frustrated with or started resenting me, or felt obligated to use the program, etcetera. So you are free to let go of those obligatory feelings, and any resentment you may feel toward using the program, quitting smoking, and me. (And Andrew, too, by the way, who is only frustrated on my behalf.)
I don't want you to smoke, but I also don't want you to fail at this because you feel obligated, and therefore resentful.
Ultimately, for your personality type, it has to be something you do, and choose, of your own free will. I appreciate that you posted as much as you did in an effort to provide me with feedback, but I think that has defeated a good bit of the program by leading to making you feel put in the spotlight, and given expectations and obligations. I have a close friend who started responding the same way, and gave up before getting to Stage 2. I recognized this in her, and told her to stop using it until she was ready to, and to not tell me a damned thing about it.
I'm going to say the same thing to you. Ultimately, the program you're using is everything you need to succeed, as has been shown by all the results everyone else has gotten with that program version, and the ones before and after it. What it can't be is a straight jacket, to force you. It's not supposed to force you.
So from here on out, Patti, I don't want to hear another word about it unless and until you can report success, and you choose to report that fact. I don't want you feeling obligated. I don't want you feeling pressured, or attacked, or misunderstood or frustrated or any of it. It's only going to trigger your subconscious (inner child?) to resist, and produce the effects the program is trying to negate and turn off.
So from here on out, Patti, you do what you want to do. You are your own woman. You make your own choices. I want you to stop posting here because I think it's only causing more feelings of obligation, resentment and resistance.
You're welcome to post about anything else. But until you've taken the lead and chosen to quit for yourself, and then chosen to post here about it, this thread is only doing damage for you instead of helping. That's not what I want.
I look forward to seeing your posts in the future. Be well.
Nobody else who has used the program properly - and I don't doubt that you have, by the way - has had these issues. They all forgot to smoke and didn't even realize they'd quit, usually for between 5 hours and a couple weeks after they stopped completely. None of them had stress, or anxiety, or emotional upset, or weight gain, or any need, want or desire to smoke after that point, never mind having to pray for help with it. In fact I have had reports of people doing the incredibly idiotic "Smoking Test", where they try to re-addict themselves by smoking a cigarette "just to see if I am addicted still", and both not finishing the cigarette and not wanting to, or smoking after that.
Incredibly idiotic because that's how most smokers get caught again. Please, don't try it.
Ultimately, there's a part of you being stubborn. Refusing to cooperate. Refusing to allow itself to be influenced. Resisting the program. I've given this a lot of thought over the last few days, partly because I wanted to really understand it, and partly because it so upset me that I wanted to calm down before I posted a response. Here's what I have concluded.
In spite of all my efforts to the point that you have been given access to, you're still resisting. I believe that is in large part because you feel as through you are obligated to quit. Guilt, shame, fear, whatever the reason is, you feel obligated and you resent that. And that resentment is triggering the classic smoker's "fuck you" response. Resistance.
So, Patti, understanding that, I hereby absolve you of any and all guilt, shame or fear you may feel on my behalf, and any obligation you have or perceive yourself as having. You are welcome to do as you please. Finish the program, or not. Smoke, or not. It always has been, and always will be your choice. I don't want you to smoke because you got frustrated with or started resenting me, or felt obligated to use the program, etcetera. So you are free to let go of those obligatory feelings, and any resentment you may feel toward using the program, quitting smoking, and me. (And Andrew, too, by the way, who is only frustrated on my behalf.)
I don't want you to smoke, but I also don't want you to fail at this because you feel obligated, and therefore resentful.
Ultimately, for your personality type, it has to be something you do, and choose, of your own free will. I appreciate that you posted as much as you did in an effort to provide me with feedback, but I think that has defeated a good bit of the program by leading to making you feel put in the spotlight, and given expectations and obligations. I have a close friend who started responding the same way, and gave up before getting to Stage 2. I recognized this in her, and told her to stop using it until she was ready to, and to not tell me a damned thing about it.
I'm going to say the same thing to you. Ultimately, the program you're using is everything you need to succeed, as has been shown by all the results everyone else has gotten with that program version, and the ones before and after it. What it can't be is a straight jacket, to force you. It's not supposed to force you.
So from here on out, Patti, I don't want to hear another word about it unless and until you can report success, and you choose to report that fact. I don't want you feeling obligated. I don't want you feeling pressured, or attacked, or misunderstood or frustrated or any of it. It's only going to trigger your subconscious (inner child?) to resist, and produce the effects the program is trying to negate and turn off.
So from here on out, Patti, you do what you want to do. You are your own woman. You make your own choices. I want you to stop posting here because I think it's only causing more feelings of obligation, resentment and resistance.
You're welcome to post about anything else. But until you've taken the lead and chosen to quit for yourself, and then chosen to post here about it, this thread is only doing damage for you instead of helping. That's not what I want.
I look forward to seeing your posts in the future. Be well.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!