08-13-2022, 07:44 AM
Thanks for the reply Benjamin. What you're saying makes sense. After I posted the question I also started to have the thought that maybe our self esteem levels were just too "out of sync" to be compatible or something along those lines.
She also self identified once or twice as "a hot mess" which was alarming for me and I think thanks to my growth in self esteem I wasn't OK with that. Always listen to how someone self identifies. And anyway I do want someone in my life who is better for me.
P.S. On the plus for her, out of transparency I did tell her that I had been listening to the sub and even the few times she stayed over she had been exposed to it (ultrasonic while sleeping.) She told me she had recently been better at making eye contact and had been more decisive about things. The day before we ended, she had asked me about where to get the sub because she was interested in getting it for herself; which I was happy to hear. I sent her the link to the Self Esteem page and explained how it worked a bit. I don't know if she'll buy it or not but I hope so for her own sake. She's very self aware and really is a good woman. I hope the best for her.
She also self identified once or twice as "a hot mess" which was alarming for me and I think thanks to my growth in self esteem I wasn't OK with that. Always listen to how someone self identifies. And anyway I do want someone in my life who is better for me.
P.S. On the plus for her, out of transparency I did tell her that I had been listening to the sub and even the few times she stayed over she had been exposed to it (ultrasonic while sleeping.) She told me she had recently been better at making eye contact and had been more decisive about things. The day before we ended, she had asked me about where to get the sub because she was interested in getting it for herself; which I was happy to hear. I sent her the link to the Self Esteem page and explained how it worked a bit. I don't know if she'll buy it or not but I hope so for her own sake. She's very self aware and really is a good woman. I hope the best for her.