05-14-2010, 11:48 AM
(05-14-2010, 10:58 AM)WildFlower Wrote: hahaha I was already mentally preparing a reply to this thread whilst reading post 3. I was going to specifically mention the indifference, apathy feeling and then I get to post 4 and see you mentioned it lol. It feels incredibly laid back, incredibly cool, no striving or searching, just the subtle, warm buzz of completeness.
I only used the confidence sub once or twice when I first found Shannon's site so I can't really compare it to the Alpha sub. I have tried building confidence before myself many times though. And a lot of the time that confidence can feel unrefined, direction-less, sporadic and fleeting. Confidence used to mean to me what I defined it to mean in my head. And my level of confidence would be a self measurement of myself and how I behaved in situation x, in situation y, in situation z in relation to my defenition. I compared myself to a visualisation in my mind of the most perfect, most confident fictional me in order to determine my own confidence. Naturally I was more confident in some situations than I was in others and my level of confidence would follow that. This meant it was very fleeting and quite fragile. Even when it looked it's toughest on the outside it wouldn't take a huge blow to knock it.
The Alpha sub has completely changed all that. I was expecting it to make me compete better with the fictional guy, but instead it completely replaces that type of thinking. My mind used to push me towards confidence and success, now it's given up the chase and just sits back and chills, operating from it's new, solid beliefs.
I'm not suggesting that the confidence sub will work for you like my attempts at manual building my own confidence. On the contrary, I think as long as confidence is built correctly (and not unintuitivly like I was unknowingly doing to myself) then you will get a real, genuine frame of confidence as your new mindset. And Shannon obviously does know how to do it the right way as the alpha sub has shown.
Amazing. I wish there was a "THANKS" button on this forum lol.
I must say that the new confidence I have with this sub is much different than the confidence I used to have. Like you, I tried to envision myself in a certain with, as a fictional character, and then strive to be that guy. Unfortuantely, no matter how many times I tried to build my house of confidence the big bad wolf kept blowing it down .
With the confidence sub, I'm confident just being ME. It's like genuine, confidence. The confidence that few people are naturally born with. In fact, I think I'll go write down the rest in the testimonial section.