08-19-2015, 10:47 AM
What a fantastic answer. You know what, I think you raise excellent points. Yeah, I'm possibly a switch and I was a sub to a Dominant for 8 months but actually I think he needs someone even MORE submissive than I, I might be a mix of all 3. Regardless, I DO want the other person to be happy too and feel he is getting his needs met and as I'm not FULLY Dominant OR submissive (but part submissive and wanting to explore being my Dominant too plus mostly vanilla but not entirely!) then I think what you said makes a heck of a lot of sense and...I guess what I mean is someone who defers to a woman more...like a lot of women let men lead a LOT in the relationship, usually I do too & I want to explore something LESS like that...but I think that the perfect lover, perfect boyfriend and maybe Alpha female (again not all at one and it may be a while before I can get them but I want them!!) might be the route for me to go. As I'm (Sorry I'm probably sharing TMI!) not fully sub or Domme. So a switch might even be perfect for me. I have an email sub who is very very submissive but I also see that if I was very vanilla or submissive with him he'd HATE that cos he's SO submissive. (No, he's not someone I want to have interactions with off-line, it's not that kind of thing. But he brings an interesting dynamic!)
Insightful and helpful as always, Shannon and I thank you so very much! You not only answered my question but you have answered in depth and brought in points - pertinent points - that have given me a lot to think about and you've answered it from all angles, and even though I already thought and think well of you anyway, wow, I am really impressed!
Insightful and helpful as always, Shannon and I thank you so very much! You not only answered my question but you have answered in depth and brought in points - pertinent points - that have given me a lot to think about and you've answered it from all angles, and even though I already thought and think well of you anyway, wow, I am really impressed!
