02-28-2015, 02:10 AM
I like a lot of this. I would add:
- fine tune your body (posture, mannerisms, facial expressions) to convey the message appropriate to the situation (e.g. authoritative when leading a group, welcoming/embracing/kind when meeting potential new friends). Not sure how to word this - but any amount of internal good stuff can be ruined because your face/posture says "get lost!"
- Destroy social anxiety (I know most of the items you mention address this, but to be specific). Makes you comfortable in crowds of any sizes, or if you are just with one (very important) person... or if you are just by yourself (would not want to become someone who always needs people around them)
- Stay in touch - make sure you reach out to others in a way that is appropriate to keep the relationship healthy and active. We often forget to stay in touch with friends, but a call/message/card goes a long way to maintaining the relationship (maybe you get invited to their parties etc.) Same with social contacts - maybe a DJ is not your friend, but a message here or that keeps you in touch might mean you get invited to an exclusive event, for example. (Maybe this is a component of "- Reach out to people in the right way")
- "- Attract cool people" - I would add the counter to this, which is remove or repair unhealthy relationships/people who are emotional vampires. Sure, being sociable with all sorts of people is nice, but we want to actually have people who make us healthier/happier.
One flip side to this, though, is that the programming should make sure that this is not at the expense of other areas of your life. i.e. I would hate my work to suffer because I start putting all my energy and hours into socializing and planning to socialize. Or I just give up on all my other goals because I have a compulsive desire to just meet more and more people... and all my free time is consumed by this.
- fine tune your body (posture, mannerisms, facial expressions) to convey the message appropriate to the situation (e.g. authoritative when leading a group, welcoming/embracing/kind when meeting potential new friends). Not sure how to word this - but any amount of internal good stuff can be ruined because your face/posture says "get lost!"
- Destroy social anxiety (I know most of the items you mention address this, but to be specific). Makes you comfortable in crowds of any sizes, or if you are just with one (very important) person... or if you are just by yourself (would not want to become someone who always needs people around them)
- Stay in touch - make sure you reach out to others in a way that is appropriate to keep the relationship healthy and active. We often forget to stay in touch with friends, but a call/message/card goes a long way to maintaining the relationship (maybe you get invited to their parties etc.) Same with social contacts - maybe a DJ is not your friend, but a message here or that keeps you in touch might mean you get invited to an exclusive event, for example. (Maybe this is a component of "- Reach out to people in the right way")
- "- Attract cool people" - I would add the counter to this, which is remove or repair unhealthy relationships/people who are emotional vampires. Sure, being sociable with all sorts of people is nice, but we want to actually have people who make us healthier/happier.
One flip side to this, though, is that the programming should make sure that this is not at the expense of other areas of your life. i.e. I would hate my work to suffer because I start putting all my energy and hours into socializing and planning to socialize. Or I just give up on all my other goals because I have a compulsive desire to just meet more and more people... and all my free time is consumed by this.
