05-29-2014, 06:25 AM
Shannon's response calls to mind something I was thinking about a few days ago, the idea of resistance (or inhibition) within reprogramming and one's response in overcoming that resistance. The human psyche is both individual and collective -- personality does not exist outside of society (even if that society refers back to memory, such as with Robinson Crusoe). In this regard, changing one's mindset involves adopting a different persona, playing a different part, etc.
Coincidentally, I'm using BIATBW too (after a couple of false starts with a couple of other things ... btw, is there an ADHD 5G on the way!
). Pushing yourself to get out there more might help. If you feel a countervailing force acting against you, I would go with the flow -- it will work out. Two things I would suggest are 1) being mindful of changes in your behavior and in the responses that you evoke from women in your run-of-the mill interactions; 2) understanding that while sex appeal has obvious connotations that we can all understand (i.e. are socially construed to some extent), the process is still a personal/individual one -- the end state is a pimped out "you," rather than a knock-off Tom Cruise or whoever!
Honestly, I was all set for going the full "Manchurian Candidate" route, having been laid off from work, dealings with the ex, and staring down another birthday (love that). That didn't happen, but what did has been better so far -- knock on wood: decidedly more female attention (which has also been reflected in better job interview feedback, if you can believe it) and a rebound of confidence that I didn't really even think I needed (but really did) that's carried over into other areas of life as well. Best thing, though, is that I feel like I can want something (or want something back) and feel perfectly honest and not like I have to apologize about it.
So, if you're a few weeks into it, I'd say follow your gut instincts, when it comes to taking a big plunge. Also, I would strongly recommend to anyone to review each night what happened during the day just ended to ascertain how things are changing for you, and particularly how women you know (even just incidentally) begin changing the way they approach you or speak to you -- the new, or newer, you. All the best -- Tim
Coincidentally, I'm using BIATBW too (after a couple of false starts with a couple of other things ... btw, is there an ADHD 5G on the way!
). Pushing yourself to get out there more might help. If you feel a countervailing force acting against you, I would go with the flow -- it will work out. Two things I would suggest are 1) being mindful of changes in your behavior and in the responses that you evoke from women in your run-of-the mill interactions; 2) understanding that while sex appeal has obvious connotations that we can all understand (i.e. are socially construed to some extent), the process is still a personal/individual one -- the end state is a pimped out "you," rather than a knock-off Tom Cruise or whoever! Honestly, I was all set for going the full "Manchurian Candidate" route, having been laid off from work, dealings with the ex, and staring down another birthday (love that). That didn't happen, but what did has been better so far -- knock on wood: decidedly more female attention (which has also been reflected in better job interview feedback, if you can believe it) and a rebound of confidence that I didn't really even think I needed (but really did) that's carried over into other areas of life as well. Best thing, though, is that I feel like I can want something (or want something back) and feel perfectly honest and not like I have to apologize about it.
So, if you're a few weeks into it, I'd say follow your gut instincts, when it comes to taking a big plunge. Also, I would strongly recommend to anyone to review each night what happened during the day just ended to ascertain how things are changing for you, and particularly how women you know (even just incidentally) begin changing the way they approach you or speak to you -- the new, or newer, you. All the best -- Tim
"I dunno. I didn't go into Burger King." -- Pulp Fiction
