12-15-2013, 07:36 AM
I'm through stage 3 now, a week into stage 4. I felt like stage three was all about facing and overcoming my fears/apprehension, towards women, mainly in approaching and starting conversations, which I didn't do a very good job with such. It seemed as though I had multiple opportunities to learn and grow in those areas but I just ended up falling back upon old habits.
My MBTI is INTP, I'm heavily introverted, so small talk just bores me to death and I have very little drive to "get after it," so to speak. I'm ordinarily a very observant and patient person, however, this program seems to bring about an "in the moment" state of mind, which is very conflicting to me.
For example; whenever I soak in the jacuzzi at Lifetime after my workout, the lifeguard, whom is very attractive, always gets out of her lifeguard chair to walk past me and give me very deep and prolonged eye contact. This has happened like clockwork for the past three days. I've always felt that type of eye contact to be very aggressive/dominant, almost to the point of being rude, like the other person is trying to say "don't even think about it." However, now I'm starting to see that as a signal to "get off your lazy ass, and come talk to me." Cognitive dissonance to the max, Jack!
I'm to the point where, I think, the program is piquing my curiosity about approaching and meeting new babes, but the core of my personality is reminding me of the comfort of familiar territory.
Any thoughts?
My MBTI is INTP, I'm heavily introverted, so small talk just bores me to death and I have very little drive to "get after it," so to speak. I'm ordinarily a very observant and patient person, however, this program seems to bring about an "in the moment" state of mind, which is very conflicting to me.
For example; whenever I soak in the jacuzzi at Lifetime after my workout, the lifeguard, whom is very attractive, always gets out of her lifeguard chair to walk past me and give me very deep and prolonged eye contact. This has happened like clockwork for the past three days. I've always felt that type of eye contact to be very aggressive/dominant, almost to the point of being rude, like the other person is trying to say "don't even think about it." However, now I'm starting to see that as a signal to "get off your lazy ass, and come talk to me." Cognitive dissonance to the max, Jack!
I'm to the point where, I think, the program is piquing my curiosity about approaching and meeting new babes, but the core of my personality is reminding me of the comfort of familiar territory.
Any thoughts?
