Zone's Alpha Male 5 Journal

[SargeMaximus]

So, I just don't understand. How can you be genuine and pass shit tests if the only way to pass them is to be someone you are not?

I refuse to believe I can't be myself, so what, then?

You pass shit tests by being genuine. If how you act before shit test = how you act after then you pass.

For instance, if you say "I love hard metal music!" and she responds "I can't stand hard metal music, its too loud!" (shit test) A good response would be "You're crazy, the great thing about hard metal music is that its loud!" That is how you pass the test. A failed response would be "I like other types of music too."

The first response owns who you are. The second response attempts to gain rapport and gets her to like you. The funny thing is that she will like you more if you own who you are. Every other guy tries to get her to like them.

In your example you would have passed the test because you owned who you are. If that was a girl, she probably would have been attracted if you talked to her like that.

My mind is getting blown by all this, so forgive me if I'm dense.

As for the heavy metal thing, I probably would have said "No? What kind of music do you like then?" and she might explain or ignore me. If she explained, though, I'd be like "oh yeah, well I like the heavy metal."

I always own who I am, it's this shit test stuff that's making me question who that really is.

I mean, why would saying "well I like other music too" be failure if it's genuine? I'm still owning who I am. I mean, honestly, I'm just being myself. I'm not going to force myself to stand up for myself when I don't feel the need to, because then it's just me trying to impress her again. If she tells me I shouldn't like it then yeah, I'll stand up for it, if not, I'll do my own thing.

I think maybe, what you're really saying (and how I hope it works) is that the motive behind what you're doing is what determines a fail or pass.

So I could even say "Oh! Well, I like other music too" so long as it's not because I want to impress her, right?