08-08-2013, 11:22 AM
I think you've mistaken my point.
It's not about agreeing. It's more about listening.
People who don't listen cannot connect with others and there's a lot of people who don't listen. It takes time and effort to be present with a person.
It's not a necessary thing, so why should these people try? These people never experience life deeply.
There's no pain in it.. only disappointment in the person and in myself when I sense that my sense of self got a crack again.
"We just want to be heard"
"We just want to connect"
That's what we all really want. Now having made the mistakes, I speak only passionately now about these things when I feel it fits in the interaction.
I'm actually amplifying my core self by being more careful of who and when to speak about my ideas...
If it's family it is much harder to be indifferent to their opinion if I speak about it.
People that you have respect for, that shoots you down when you open up.. now these are the people you should not speak about such a personal matter.
The thing is that when you speak about this to people you do not know, it is easier because they don't have a perceived identity of who you are.
(I feel like repeating myself)
Hope you got my point...
It's not about agreeing. It's more about listening.
People who don't listen cannot connect with others and there's a lot of people who don't listen. It takes time and effort to be present with a person.
It's not a necessary thing, so why should these people try? These people never experience life deeply.
There's no pain in it.. only disappointment in the person and in myself when I sense that my sense of self got a crack again.
"We just want to be heard"
"We just want to connect"
That's what we all really want. Now having made the mistakes, I speak only passionately now about these things when I feel it fits in the interaction.
Quote:Exactly. So wouldn't it be better to just leave the BS alone instead of leaving your core self alone when BS rears it's ugly head?I don't see what you mean.. I've never said I'm holding my core self back.
I'm actually amplifying my core self by being more careful of who and when to speak about my ideas...
If it's family it is much harder to be indifferent to their opinion if I speak about it.
People that you have respect for, that shoots you down when you open up.. now these are the people you should not speak about such a personal matter.
The thing is that when you speak about this to people you do not know, it is easier because they don't have a perceived identity of who you are.
(I feel like repeating myself)
Hope you got my point...
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
