Do you consistantly approach Women?

[ChaChaCha]

Ok well first up, don't be nervous just walking up to them. That might be easier said than done, but seriously - get to know a few girls first, and hang out with them, like they're people.

If she is alone and standing still, I try to calmly get close to her and stand next to her

Don't think of them as walking tits - think of them as people. Perhaps to help ease your nerves a bit, try making some friends of girls, without any intention of hooking up with them. Just to help get yourself used to being around chicks. When you have a few female friends who you can hold a normal conversation with without feeling nervous, then go try chatting girls up - they don't need to be your new friends either.

I'm married now, but when I was single I had some girls I didn't know come up to me and nervously try to make conversation - I regarded them as if they were highschoolers, I had no interest at all. However the woman who became my wife, I knew her as a friend for about a year before we got together and we chatted about all sorts of things - before she very clearly and blatantly made a move to get what she wanted.

Hey Brad,
thanks for taking the time to respond to the thread.

The problem isn’t that I can’t talk to girls in general or that I see them as walking tits. After all I approach them to find out if its mutual and we enjoy each other’s company.

The problem for me lies more in that very first conversation where you don’t have any knowledge what so ever about the girl and you are physically attracted to her.

And in case you fail on that first conversation it’s basically over with that girl.

I think I really need to work more on leading the conversation, because I’m losing out on those girls that actually are interested. I'll prolly practice this abit on the girls i know like you mentiond.