12-10-2012, 07:56 PM
(This post was last modified: 12-10-2012, 08:13 PM by FunkeyMonkey.)
To be honest, I sometimes think that the concept of Alpha Male is a backward looking latching-on to our less developed ancestors and a sort of modern knee jerk reaction against a necessary shift in consciousness.
Healthy man or non-neurotic man seems like a more balanced concept to me. When I think of the idea of a guy acting really beta by looking down a lot, or other behavior we often hear described with these concepts, it sounds to me more like a self esteem issue that is rooted in neurosis more than a natural tribal behavior pattern.
I think the sad truth, for anyone looking for self help, including me, is that regardless of what one does, if emotional issues that are rooted in childhood, or even adulthood, for that matter, are unresolved, it really doesn't matter what one does - the issues will snap back like a rubber band over time, sooner or later.
I don't mean to sound futile here but it's what I've seen with myself and others repeatedly. The original demons have to be faced one way or another and usually that's emotionally.
I guess what I am really saying here is that gaining a particular skill, like getting better with women or with business or with art etc. is great and valuable, but it will never be a replacement for good therapy and I get the feeling that therapy is probably what many people who seek self improvement actually need. If one can get their core issues resolved, then the other things will more easily fall into place and be more enjoyable. It's more like the icing on the cake.
Healthy man or non-neurotic man seems like a more balanced concept to me. When I think of the idea of a guy acting really beta by looking down a lot, or other behavior we often hear described with these concepts, it sounds to me more like a self esteem issue that is rooted in neurosis more than a natural tribal behavior pattern.
I think the sad truth, for anyone looking for self help, including me, is that regardless of what one does, if emotional issues that are rooted in childhood, or even adulthood, for that matter, are unresolved, it really doesn't matter what one does - the issues will snap back like a rubber band over time, sooner or later.
I don't mean to sound futile here but it's what I've seen with myself and others repeatedly. The original demons have to be faced one way or another and usually that's emotionally.
I guess what I am really saying here is that gaining a particular skill, like getting better with women or with business or with art etc. is great and valuable, but it will never be a replacement for good therapy and I get the feeling that therapy is probably what many people who seek self improvement actually need. If one can get their core issues resolved, then the other things will more easily fall into place and be more enjoyable. It's more like the icing on the cake.
