01-06-2025, 05:00 AM
Some reflections on my run-through, having shifted to OPH 5.11G out of necessity after 6.5 months of OF.
When I started the OF run-through, I was away from my office on an extended period of leave/field research. Shortly after my return, I had the annual check-in with my boss. She commented that she felt I was more "distant" since my return. At the time I didn't think much of it, because certain things had emerged during my time away that did indeed make me consciously feel more distant from some of my colleagues.
Yet there is more to it, I think. People-pleasing can be understood as a fear-based response. I need everyone to like me so that I feel safe. I will make avoiding conflict a priority. Without fear you have the luxury of being self-contained. People aren't vibing with me? Who cares.
I'm not dating at the moment, but I wouldn't be surprised if this experience bumps me up an echelon in attractiveness moving forward. The guy who is beholden to the vibes. The guy who is immune to vibes (like the "autistic chad") is respected.
When I started the OF run-through, I was away from my office on an extended period of leave/field research. Shortly after my return, I had the annual check-in with my boss. She commented that she felt I was more "distant" since my return. At the time I didn't think much of it, because certain things had emerged during my time away that did indeed make me consciously feel more distant from some of my colleagues.
Yet there is more to it, I think. People-pleasing can be understood as a fear-based response. I need everyone to like me so that I feel safe. I will make avoiding conflict a priority. Without fear you have the luxury of being self-contained. People aren't vibing with me? Who cares.
I'm not dating at the moment, but I wouldn't be surprised if this experience bumps me up an echelon in attractiveness moving forward. The guy who is beholden to the vibes. The guy who is immune to vibes (like the "autistic chad") is respected.
