09-26-2018, 03:52 AM
It's very sad that your mom's upbringing and lifestyle haunts you. You should not abandon your mom, but you also can't be an enabler. Try to meet her in a positive environment, outside of her home where she will see positivity around her. It should be someplace that's free. Pack a simpkle lunch for her. Maybe she likes nature, the arts, free concerts,. You know what makes her happy, start there and expand from it. The internet shows a lot of free or inexpensive acivities, plus seniors get discounts.
I always knew that my mom's upbringing had an influence on the wistakes that she made raising me. I didn't know everything, of course. It wasn't until I heard about some of the things that she went through, that I understood her better. It didn't happen overnight, but understanding her better was freeing for me.
You deserved to be loved when you were a child, and you deserve to be loved now that you're an adult. Your mother did show you love as best as she could, but not the way that you needed. This lack of love had nothing to do with you. Your mother was given even less love herself. Try to give yourself what she didn't have to give you. When you hear those negative voices in your head, fight them by telling yourself outloud "I am better than this".
I always knew that my mom's upbringing had an influence on the wistakes that she made raising me. I didn't know everything, of course. It wasn't until I heard about some of the things that she went through, that I understood her better. It didn't happen overnight, but understanding her better was freeing for me.
You deserved to be loved when you were a child, and you deserve to be loved now that you're an adult. Your mother did show you love as best as she could, but not the way that you needed. This lack of love had nothing to do with you. Your mother was given even less love herself. Try to give yourself what she didn't have to give you. When you hear those negative voices in your head, fight them by telling yourself outloud "I am better than this".
