Also, when listening, do not listen only to what she say, but what she feel. What is she trying to tell you? Understand her perspective, use your heart, all of us have one, it's meant to use for understanding. You can do it more than you probably know. With that intent, to understand, you will be fine, and she will forgive you, no doubt about it.
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" I likely made you doubt yourself, blame yourself, and judge yourself since what I did made absolutely no sense. It made no sense at all. You didn’t know it was coming. "
You don't know what she felt, unless she actually tells you that she "blamed herself". But anyway, it's almost never a good idea to tell other people what they did, what they felt, etc. That just create more reasons for misunderstandings and possible conflict. Let her tell you. But it's OK to ask "how did that make you feel".
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" I likely made you doubt yourself, blame yourself, and judge yourself since what I did made absolutely no sense. It made no sense at all. You didn’t know it was coming. "
You don't know what she felt, unless she actually tells you that she "blamed herself". But anyway, it's almost never a good idea to tell other people what they did, what they felt, etc. That just create more reasons for misunderstandings and possible conflict. Let her tell you. But it's OK to ask "how did that make you feel".
