You now what burns me? Women who blatantly lead a man on, and then shut him down... and especially the ones who complain if we do the same to them. God help a man who gets HER hot and bothered and then says no, let's just cuddle... but if she does it, it's supposed to be respected because "no means no". Okay, fine, no means no, and here's my answer for you, lady: No more chances to lead me on. Ever. I hate double standards.
I think, though, that you should have told her what she told you. That would have framed it as in, you have self control, and she can't just manipulate you by leading you on. As in, she can't control you with your wang.
I just said I hate double standards, and yet I'm advocating you do what she did?
Yes, because that's what she wanted from you. That was a shit test. How much can she control you with sex to get you to do what she wants?
I have dealt with that before, my friend. When a woman is moving that fast, you tell her no. If she wants it, she'll wait. And she'll gladly wait, because you're not just like every other penis on legs. Knowing when to tell a woman no is the most powerful thing you can learn in life, according to some.
Had that happened to me, I'd have told her no, she can't just have sex with me, I'm not a piece of meat. But, had I gone along with her little ploy regardless, I'd have laughed when she pulled the ASD out and started wanting to snuggle. I'd have said, "What? False advertising? You know that shit is illegal, right?" and then I'd have had to demonstrate how easily manipulated I am by decidedly losing interest in her. I don't like it when women try to manipulate me to get what they want.
DHV. Self respect. Self control. Know when she's pulling a shit test on you, and shut HER down. That's how you get the girl.
And by being deadly honest. A man sometimes has to make hard choices, and feelings sometimes get hurt. Don't go out of your way to hurt them - but also don't lose backbone to save them, either. Especially if she basically lied to you by telling you she wanted X and then pulling bait and switch BS at the last minute.
Which she did because you failed her shit test, btw. And if you cuddled with her, you really failed.
Cuddling is great, but doing it after that happened was rewarding her for lying to you - and that is a bad move. Never let a woman lead you on, deceive, lie, or cheat on you without making her pay the consequences. (My favorite consequences to instantiate in such situations is: I simply do not deal with her anymore. At all, if possible.)
Leading a man on is lying. Intentional deception. And it will keep happening as long as you allow it. Don't allow it. You should be the one who decides when you have sex, not her. That's not to say you should force a woman, but that it shouldn't be east to manipulate you through sex or anything else. Self control.
I think, though, that you should have told her what she told you. That would have framed it as in, you have self control, and she can't just manipulate you by leading you on. As in, she can't control you with your wang.
I just said I hate double standards, and yet I'm advocating you do what she did?
Yes, because that's what she wanted from you. That was a shit test. How much can she control you with sex to get you to do what she wants?
I have dealt with that before, my friend. When a woman is moving that fast, you tell her no. If she wants it, she'll wait. And she'll gladly wait, because you're not just like every other penis on legs. Knowing when to tell a woman no is the most powerful thing you can learn in life, according to some.
Had that happened to me, I'd have told her no, she can't just have sex with me, I'm not a piece of meat. But, had I gone along with her little ploy regardless, I'd have laughed when she pulled the ASD out and started wanting to snuggle. I'd have said, "What? False advertising? You know that shit is illegal, right?" and then I'd have had to demonstrate how easily manipulated I am by decidedly losing interest in her. I don't like it when women try to manipulate me to get what they want.
DHV. Self respect. Self control. Know when she's pulling a shit test on you, and shut HER down. That's how you get the girl.
And by being deadly honest. A man sometimes has to make hard choices, and feelings sometimes get hurt. Don't go out of your way to hurt them - but also don't lose backbone to save them, either. Especially if she basically lied to you by telling you she wanted X and then pulling bait and switch BS at the last minute.
Which she did because you failed her shit test, btw. And if you cuddled with her, you really failed.
Cuddling is great, but doing it after that happened was rewarding her for lying to you - and that is a bad move. Never let a woman lead you on, deceive, lie, or cheat on you without making her pay the consequences. (My favorite consequences to instantiate in such situations is: I simply do not deal with her anymore. At all, if possible.)
Leading a man on is lying. Intentional deception. And it will keep happening as long as you allow it. Don't allow it. You should be the one who decides when you have sex, not her. That's not to say you should force a woman, but that it shouldn't be east to manipulate you through sex or anything else. Self control.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
