Day 31
OK... It's been a month since I posted any updates. I missed using the sub for 4 days out of the last 35 days since I started the sub. Reason for missing: I was too tired to hook up the device and power it on.
Interest from a girl
Earlier during the sub use a girl who I recently took a short two hour course with - seemed to be attracted to me. She was displaying signs a typical guy trying to pick up a girl would display. For example, when I complained about paying too much money for the course, she goes - Oh! come on, I'll buy you a coffee! Then instead of me going with her, she came to see me off even though she had to go in a different direction. I had to wake up early next morning so I said goodbye, exchanged phone numbers and off I went.
She responded to a message, soon after I was on my way home, but I sent another message and she only responded to that next afternoon. A bit weird.
Anyway, in about a week's time I suggest meeting for drinks and she shows up. We have a good time - just talking. I pay and she tells me next time it's her turn.
In a few days I ask her out again saying it's her turn to buy me drinks and this time also she wanted to go to the same bar. I suggested another bar and she unwillingly started to walk with me. It seemed to me that she was a creature of habit and was a regular to the other bar, so I suggested we go back to the same old bar. My thinking was that she'd be more comfortable at a familiar place.
We decided to get a table instead of sitting on the bar and I sat on the opposite sides of the table. Soon she asked me to come sit next to her as she couldn't hear me. (It was BS, I could hear her clearly and I'm pretty sure she could hear me clearly too). I went to sit with her and she seems very receptive and very animated while talking. She asked me questions about career etc. to which I told her I wasn't a career coach or a psychologist. At that she asked for advice about dating then.
At this point I start telling her about what I genuinely felt she needed - a strong man. She seemed very receptive to everything during the whole evening. She was open to physical contact - I held her hand, my hand was on her thighs etc.
At one point I mentioned that she was a genuine/authentic/honest person and she'd allowed me a glimpse into her. I think I repeated that in a different sentence too. As far as I was concerned, that's exactly how I felt, but something changed in her behaviour at this point and she distanced herself a bit and then started telling me how she was getting late and how she had to go home.
Next afternoon at work during lunch time I was telling a couple of friends about her and they wanted to see her picture. I told them I don't have the picture - they asked me for some details and found her on facebook. Lo and behold! What we see on facebook: she has a boyfriend
My read on the whole situation: she was interested in me despite having a boyfriend (I can only attribute it either to DMSI or to a chance that she was in a rocky relationship and I just came along at the right time. I'm willing to give the credit to DMSI.) The place where I think I messed up was when I told her about how she was honest/upfront etc. and which kind of caused a guilt response in her. And off she went back to her boy's arms.
*sigh*
Moral of the story: never tell a girl she's honest/genuine etc.
Some may say, I need to strengthen my game to be able to pull off lays in a situation like the above. Any ideas to begin with, would be much appreciated.
DMSI over Holidays
During the Xmas period I visited my family. Played DMSI every night, but surprisingly when I was with my family I didn't feel as tired after playing DMSI in the morning as I did when I was on my own. I clearly noticed this after coming back from my parents place as well. Holiday period had nothing to report - no perceptible interest from anyone.
Post Holiday Period
In the last week or so, again I haven't noticed any interest from any girls. The main thing I've noticed is that I feel more exhausted and drained. Part of the reason could be I switched to hybrid for two of my loops (first loop: masked, second/third: hybrid). Over the weekend I slept for 10-11 hours each day. During the day I have no energy after 3-4pm.
I was planning on continuing with the 'A' version, but a thought just crossed my mind that maybe I should switch to 'B' version for a couple of weeks to see if that changes anything.
Your thoughts on the above are most welcome.
Edit: Forgot to mention that post-holiday period has been full of exhaustion, depression, lack of motivation etc. Have been sleeping a lot. Still feel sleep deprived. Someone did mention that their eyesight became better on DMSI, mine has actually gone worse (tested by an ophthalmologist).
OK... It's been a month since I posted any updates. I missed using the sub for 4 days out of the last 35 days since I started the sub. Reason for missing: I was too tired to hook up the device and power it on.
Interest from a girl
Earlier during the sub use a girl who I recently took a short two hour course with - seemed to be attracted to me. She was displaying signs a typical guy trying to pick up a girl would display. For example, when I complained about paying too much money for the course, she goes - Oh! come on, I'll buy you a coffee! Then instead of me going with her, she came to see me off even though she had to go in a different direction. I had to wake up early next morning so I said goodbye, exchanged phone numbers and off I went.
She responded to a message, soon after I was on my way home, but I sent another message and she only responded to that next afternoon. A bit weird.
Anyway, in about a week's time I suggest meeting for drinks and she shows up. We have a good time - just talking. I pay and she tells me next time it's her turn.
In a few days I ask her out again saying it's her turn to buy me drinks and this time also she wanted to go to the same bar. I suggested another bar and she unwillingly started to walk with me. It seemed to me that she was a creature of habit and was a regular to the other bar, so I suggested we go back to the same old bar. My thinking was that she'd be more comfortable at a familiar place.
We decided to get a table instead of sitting on the bar and I sat on the opposite sides of the table. Soon she asked me to come sit next to her as she couldn't hear me. (It was BS, I could hear her clearly and I'm pretty sure she could hear me clearly too). I went to sit with her and she seems very receptive and very animated while talking. She asked me questions about career etc. to which I told her I wasn't a career coach or a psychologist. At that she asked for advice about dating then.
At this point I start telling her about what I genuinely felt she needed - a strong man. She seemed very receptive to everything during the whole evening. She was open to physical contact - I held her hand, my hand was on her thighs etc.
At one point I mentioned that she was a genuine/authentic/honest person and she'd allowed me a glimpse into her. I think I repeated that in a different sentence too. As far as I was concerned, that's exactly how I felt, but something changed in her behaviour at this point and she distanced herself a bit and then started telling me how she was getting late and how she had to go home.
Next afternoon at work during lunch time I was telling a couple of friends about her and they wanted to see her picture. I told them I don't have the picture - they asked me for some details and found her on facebook. Lo and behold! What we see on facebook: she has a boyfriend
My read on the whole situation: she was interested in me despite having a boyfriend (I can only attribute it either to DMSI or to a chance that she was in a rocky relationship and I just came along at the right time. I'm willing to give the credit to DMSI.) The place where I think I messed up was when I told her about how she was honest/upfront etc. and which kind of caused a guilt response in her. And off she went back to her boy's arms.
*sigh*
Moral of the story: never tell a girl she's honest/genuine etc.
Some may say, I need to strengthen my game to be able to pull off lays in a situation like the above. Any ideas to begin with, would be much appreciated.
DMSI over Holidays
During the Xmas period I visited my family. Played DMSI every night, but surprisingly when I was with my family I didn't feel as tired after playing DMSI in the morning as I did when I was on my own. I clearly noticed this after coming back from my parents place as well. Holiday period had nothing to report - no perceptible interest from anyone.
Post Holiday Period
In the last week or so, again I haven't noticed any interest from any girls. The main thing I've noticed is that I feel more exhausted and drained. Part of the reason could be I switched to hybrid for two of my loops (first loop: masked, second/third: hybrid). Over the weekend I slept for 10-11 hours each day. During the day I have no energy after 3-4pm.
I was planning on continuing with the 'A' version, but a thought just crossed my mind that maybe I should switch to 'B' version for a couple of weeks to see if that changes anything.
Your thoughts on the above are most welcome.
Edit: Forgot to mention that post-holiday period has been full of exhaustion, depression, lack of motivation etc. Have been sleeping a lot. Still feel sleep deprived. Someone did mention that their eyesight became better on DMSI, mine has actually gone worse (tested by an ophthalmologist).
