Spiritman Journal

[Spiritman]

Little bit of advice. The most major romantic and sexual relationship I ever had almost didn't happen because a "friend" of mine decided to tell me (falsely) that he was dating the woman in question, when in fact he was trying to impress me with lies and never had a chance with said woman. Had I not spoken to her about it, I would never have known, and would never have started dating her. Never believe it unless she tells you herself what her status is, and even then half the time it'll be wrong. Women lie to get guys in bed too, and lie to keep them from pursuing as well. The best you can do is ask her straight up. "Hey, are you seeing anyone?"

Well, Shannon I think I answered the question this morning. I went on her Facebook account and saw her pictures. Anyways, I saw her with the guy that I have been seeing her eating lunch with. The picture is only a few months old, so I think I got my answer. But, I just remind myself, it is her loss and there are a million other women out there like her.

lol That's a cop out. You're assuming based on fear of being rejected. I know because that's exactly what I used to do.

Even if she is dating him, so what? Let her decide whom she prefers. Throw your hat in the ring and see what happens. If she shows interest, let her know she'll need to make herself single to have access to you, and let her decide what she wants. If it doesn't work, make it into a friendship. Then enjoy her company, and network through her too.

Thanks Shannon for the advice and for the input. Positive constructive criticism is a good thing and will work on it.