07-19-2011, 07:52 AM
(07-18-2011, 05:43 AM)Spiral Wrote: This has probably been the hardest thing for me. Feeling like you don't deserve something obviously stems from some sort of insecurity about yourself physically or mentally. Say you aren't intelligent enough to swoon that woman or you aren't good enough or qualified for the job. It is just a lack of confidence in oneself. I think once you become self assured anything is possible. That is probably the hardest thing to get down and alpha set definitely helps out in that area but maybe not enough. SHANNON, maybe take note of that if you havn't already. I've thought about it and along with direct focus on leadership maybe self assuredness should also be heavily focused on if it isn't already.
I'm recently started working on this as well with the use of mirror affirmations and reading upon codependency, I believe it has to do with not having enough trust and feeling comfortable enough in your own abilities, and because you don't have enough faith in yourself, you expect others to react in the same way as you do. Since you don't trust yourself, why should another person trust you?
This makes you outcome oriented, which then heads to people pleasing behavior, which is basically trying to manipulate people into thinking your something you're not. So you're overcompensating and trying to pretend being comfortable and self-assured and people will tend to see right through that behavior. And even if they don't, you still do, so eventually you'll still end up feeling like a phony.
I do notice that gratification affirmations tend to make the message behind it more emotional and sturdy, but I still wouldn't seclude regular affirmations in the process. As long as you feel emotion behind it, I believe you're on the right path (same principle with natural grounding). The affirmations are nothing else than guidelines to hooking up to an emotion, feeling, idea(l) etc.
