The Female Counterpart To Alpha Male Subliminal Training

[Patti]

This is a great thread! It would take a lot of thought to imagine specifics.. but women have so many cycles and stages that they go through. Things I think are good for women ....

1. Deep unconditional self love and acceptance. That means a deep seated unshakable knowledge that whatever, whoever and in whatever circumstances she is, she is perfect AS she is and from the perspective of all that is. Rather than create complacency or arrogance, as it may seem to insecure people, a deep unconditional love provides peace and the ability to view others from a place of love, rather than a place of insecurity or need... need for validation usually. Something dangerous and unattractive and painful for women.... that need for validation. They're easily manipulated and controlled by each other and by men because of it.
2. Deep insight and trust into her own personal guidance system and the ability to make decisions based on that -- rather than based on fear, pressure, or societal "shoulds." There are several times in a woman's life where she has some serious choices to make regarding marriage, children, how she will raise the children, what to do with her career and everyone in the peanut gallery and their mother has opinions of what a woman "should" do, and every where you turn there is criticism and condemnation. If a woman has the self confidence to do what she believes in and feels best coming from a place of love and desire (desire meaning, what she wants to do with her life) rather than again- fear, insecurity, pressure and all the "shoulds" then she'll do the right thing and happily do a WONDERFUL job with it, whatever her choices are. Happy mothers are good mothers. Happy wives are good wives. Women who have the confidence to do what they have to do to make themselves happy are the only ones who TRULY are. You cannot look around you and need the behaviour of others to make you happy. And when you're subservient.. you're acting and doing and DOING and acting hoping and needing others to like what you're doing and approve so that you can feel "ok." Unfortunately a lot of us still today grow up thinking that if we act on our own needs we're being selfish and that is BAD. As an adult, I've learned that being "selfish" and making myself happy rather than doting on everyone around me is not only super awesome for me and my kids, but it makes me irresistible and wildly attractive and sexy to men. OMG.. a woman who is naturally happy and takes care of her own moods, who isn't depending on him to keep her happy and fulfilled, who enjoys him thoroughly for what he is and doesn't need him to change and jump through ever changing hoops so that she can approve? It's good for him and for me it keeps away the men who would use and abuse. They simply don't even apply. I know this because they used to. Also on this same thread, coming from a place of taking care of my needs I'm able to be so strong and give far more than I ever ever ever used to be able to, that is wonderful and powerful and I love being able to truly help. But you can't help anyone until you've helped yourself first. An easy statement to give lip service to, but not actually follow through with. It's also a relief for others to be in the presence of someone who isn't going to get upset, offended, or feel bad over things.

3. No more guilt or shame. They're useless emotions. We're inundated with guilt over everything from eating too much, to not cleaning or cookingenough, to not being rich enough, thin enough, to having sexual fantasies or one night stands, to having too much sex or being single too long for God's sake the guilt has to go. Especially surrounding sex. We're physical creatures here on this earth to experience what a physical body has to offer and there is a reason it feels good. It feels good because it IS good. There are a lot of "rules" and beliefs surrounding sex and relationships that maybe served a purpose a long time ago but they're not serving us today, except to control and keep us (humans) from enjoying each other and loving each other the way we have the potential to. When you can love someone without conditions, experience them physically and emotionally (or even just one) without attachment and with pure joy it's really a good life.
4. Everything people do is because they hope or want to feel better in the doing or having of it. So lets (women) stop judging each other for the things we do, ANYTHING, and lets stop judging men. Men are not us. Men are men and if you can see them as such your heart will open and you will love the shit out of them they are so fun, there is so much to appreciate, it's so wonderful that they are SOOO different and yet we're all connected and the wonderful and fulfilling and beautiful way that we interact with them could NEVER be as good if they weren't how they are. We need to lose the internal beliefs that make us look at others and somehow feel inadequate, judged, and cause us to retaliate with negative thoughts and feelings.
5. Listen to our bodies. Women's bodies are cyclical and our emotions are very attached to our cycles. Be aware of them and do what we need to do. In my case, pre period, I have less energy, less sex drive, orgasms take longer to get to and are not as intense. I do not want to be social, and I've reflective. I think a lot. I crave fattier saltier food. What I need to do is withdraw and take care of myself. If I DON'T tend to my needs I get bitchy. It's better for me to take my attention of my man at this point as I'll only feel critical and needy. Snappy, I have low patience and tolerance, I feel needy and insecure if I force myself to be social or to tend to other peopl's needs and demands (ie: girlfriends or a lover or boyfriend). After my period my energy SOARS and I become extremely social, extremely obliging, I can do anything for anyone and have energy to spare, sexually I cannot get enough and am very giving and happy to give as well in that area orgasms are easy and more intense. I'm easy going and things don't bother me at all and I can take a lot from others. I'm super creative.... pre period is where I can reflect on the creations and perhaps revise or see the flaws. The point here is that we need to learn to listen to ourselves instead of thinking something is wrong because we're not the same as last week. When we do life goes well. When we override our own wisdom it's just not as good.

One thing with women is that everyone has an opinion of what we all should be, but there is a time and place in our life for everything and we need to feel ok with being at that place. We need to acknowledge that even though we're not lauded and praised as we were for being at our most sexually titilating... we're still just as wonderful, it doesnt have to be a BAD THING. We need to feel as good about ourselves when we're flabby milky and hormonal post birth as we do when we're in our peak physical sexual condition, our innate worth is not diminished by aging, even though after a certain age, or without a certain amount of physical beauty a woman becomes literally invisible to society. Plenty of women I know in their late 40s and 50s have had a really hard time adjusting to the invisibiity factor, especially if they were beautiful when they were young. Men often only "see" beautiful women up until a certain age, unless one's energy is so powerful and a man is in a mental state where he can sense it.

Power and strength without being bitchy or man hating or resenting or pushing against. Very important. I think a woman can be extremely powerful and influential if she accepts and embraces the power of the feminine, instead of dismissing it and trying to emulate the masculine. There is so much joy to be found in being a female, and so much joy to be found AS a female when you don't push against men but embrace them.

I'm just waffling now sorry this was so long!!

I think your #3 hits home for me. Going to catholic school for 12 years, I believe they have their own subliminal that they instill for guilt and shame! They drive it in that sex is a vessel to achieve the wonderment of children. Enjoyment is NOT the purpose!

Great post Maggie!