dissonance - DMSI v3.1

[dissonance]

She thought it was a good size, and sometimes when I'm very hard, she even comments on how big it is. It's not, but most girls don't see dick in real life as often as you do (seeing your own everyday) and so when they see a penis they can't really even tell if it's big or not. If you have a six inch penis and you tell a girl it's eight inches, she'll probably believe you.

Good luck.

Lol very true. I dont generally disclose my size to who I sleep with before the act. It never comes up in conversation. Often times My X's have told other people how big m dick was and honestly believed they were correct, but the number they gave people was always an inch or two longer than what I actually measured in at. "Oh, really? I thought you were 8 or 9 inches??" lmao.

Anyways - good luck man. Lots of girls are definitely turned on by the idea of them taking your V card. Its naughty and taboo because they're the first and its like theyre taking something from you. Very weird (conceptually) guilty pleasure for girls but it is very common. If you strike it up well with a chick then she's usually going to be cool about it. In fact, if you act like it really isnt a big deal, then girls wont like that as much. They want to feel dirty, like youre vulnerable and theyre going to get away with something. You should verbalize your trust to the girl and let them do their thing. Hell, tell them they can 'take' it by climbing on top. If you act all cool, alpha, macho, yet you're a virgin, then it doesnt really add up in a girls head - makes sense? You could even tell a girl you just want to get it over with and ask them to help you out. Think of it this way - you and a girl hit it off and youre a guy whos had lots of sex before. She wants to get it over with, and you, as an experienced guy who is also horny, are very willing to help her out. Flip that around and thats basically how the girl thinks. Maybe she's never taken a V card before and has always wanted to.

Yeah I see what you mean. Basically you're saying just don't try to act like a pussy-drowned player when you're actually a virgin, right? However, just because I'm a virgin doesn't mean I can't be confident in myself and be an alpha male, yes?

This is actually one thing that is kind of confusing or that I'm anxious about. Like I'm trying to better myself and be confident, be my own man, be an alpha, lie life on my own terms, and so for example if I tell a girl I'm a virgin, and she is surprised, because it seems I'm confident, attractive, and etc... is that what you would refer to as "doesn't really add up in a girls head"? Or what do you mean?

Is your definition of "doesn't really add up in a girls head" referring to a girl being surprised that a man is a virgin because he is confident and attractive, but reveals he is a virgin? ...or that what he says/does/acts like is of a badass drowned in pussy but is actually a virgin, so she sees his fakeness and non-genuineness after he reveals he is a virgin?

[RTBoss]

She thought it was a good size, and sometimes when I'm very hard, she even comments on how big it is. It's not, but most girls don't see dick in real life as often as you do (seeing your own everyday) and so when they see a penis they can't really even tell if it's big or not. If you have a six inch penis and you tell a girl it's eight inches, she'll probably believe you.

Good luck.

Lol very true. I dont generally disclose my size to who I sleep with before the act. It never comes up in conversation. Often times My X's have told other people how big m dick was and honestly believed they were correct, but the number they gave people was always an inch or two longer than what I actually measured in at. "Oh, really? I thought you were 8 or 9 inches??" lmao.

Anyways - good luck man. Lots of girls are definitely turned on by the idea of them taking your V card. Its naughty and taboo because they're the first and its like theyre taking something from you. Very weird (conceptually) guilty pleasure for girls but it is very common. If you strike it up well with a chick then she's usually going to be cool about it. In fact, if you act like it really isnt a big deal, then girls wont like that as much. They want to feel dirty, like youre vulnerable and theyre going to get away with something. You should verbalize your trust to the girl and let them do their thing. Hell, tell them they can 'take' it by climbing on top. If you act all cool, alpha, macho, yet you're a virgin, then it doesnt really add up in a girls head - makes sense? You could even tell a girl you just want to get it over with and ask them to help you out. Think of it this way - you and a girl hit it off and youre a guy whos had lots of sex before. She wants to get it over with, and you, as an experienced guy who is also horny, are very willing to help her out. Flip that around and thats basically how the girl thinks. Maybe she's never taken a V card before and has always wanted to.

Yeah I see what you mean. Basically you're saying just don't try to act like a pussy-drowned player when you're actually a virgin, right? However, just because I'm a virgin doesn't mean I can't be confident in myself and be an alpha male, yes?

This is actually one thing that is kind of confusing or that I'm anxious about. Like I'm trying to better myself and be confident, be my own man, be an alpha, lie life on my own terms, and so for example if I tell a girl I'm a virgin, and she is surprised, because it seems I'm confident, attractive, and etc... is that what you would refer to as "doesn't really add up in a girls head"? Or what do you mean?

Is your definition of "doesn't really add up in a girls head" referring to a girl being surprised that a man is a virgin because he is confident and attractive, but reveals he is a virgin? ...or that what he says/does/acts like is of a badass drowned in pussy but is actually a virgin, so she sees his fakeness and non-genuineness after he reveals he is a virgin?

You can absolutely be all those positive things, and a virgin. Understand that many men harbor shame around being a virgin. If you have no shame - perhaps it's an attribute that makes you proud, perhaps it is being a virgin by choice - then why not be confident, masculine, alpha, whatever?

[Ars0n1sT]

Yeah I see what you mean. Basically you're saying just don't try to act like a pussy-drowned player when you're actually a virgin, right? However, just because I'm a virgin doesn't mean I can't be confident in myself and be an alpha male, yes?

This is actually one thing that is kind of confusing or that I'm anxious about. Like I'm trying to better myself and be confident, be my own man, be an alpha, lie life on my own terms, and so for example if I tell a girl I'm a virgin, and she is surprised, because it seems I'm confident, attractive, and etc... is that what you would refer to as "doesn't really add up in a girls head"? Or what do you mean?

Is your definition of "doesn't really add up in a girls head" referring to a girl being surprised that a man is a virgin because he is confident and attractive, but reveals he is a virgin? ...or that what he says/does/acts like is of a badass drowned in pussy but is actually a virgin, so she sees his fakeness and non-genuineness after he reveals he is a virgin?

Correct, you can and should be confident and secure within yourself. Being confident and even somewhat cocky and playful will not set off an alarm in a girls head saying something doesnt add up, although yes it may come as a surprise. To clarify, I mean that you would be doing yourself a disservice to act like a pussy slayer and to be overly confident. I am not accusing you of doing any such thing, of course I am only getting your gears turning so you can feel good about whatever course of action you choose. In other words, be genuine - not fake. I see your predicament. You want to have the mindset of someone who has been laid but you can't quite act like that if you havent done it. This is why I am suggesting you may consider just getting it over with, which is a conversation easy to get into and you can quite easily frame it as meaningless but devoid of any player vibe to it since you really are just trying to get it out of the way to get on with yourself. If it really does mean very little to you, the girl you lose it with that is, you can even make a tinder profile saying "yes seriously im a virgin, someone please take this V card from me!" Yeah its a tad tacky but its an option.

[dissonance]

Just thought I'd copy and paste a post here for my own journal for records sake...

"Dude keep goin with DMSI 3.0A i think. It definitely is working on stuff because you're clearly resisting with those negative changes like lost sexual drive drop in energy and depression. I had lots of times where I was like nothing is happening I'm just stuck, but now in recent couple of weeks, after like some pretty heavy depressive days, I'm realizing that there's a huge shift in me. I'm chatting with this girl I met through an app, and I'm probably going to meet up with her sometime and fuck each other's brains out (if I find her as physically attractive as she is in texts).

Never in my life have I actually considered doing something remotely like this, as in meeting with someone i met online, and actually being EXCITED to possibly finally lose my V, and actually not caring much about insecurities that in the past would have been absolutely hindering such as my penis size or my body and even my personality, lol. Overall, the healing and inner-self changes have been more significant with DMSI 3.1a than any sub before so far including AM6."

[dissonance]

I'm also chatting with a 10/10 blue haired lesbian girl, and hopefully will meet up with her and meet potential partners through her.

[dissonance]

Last night I couldn't sleep cuz I was thinking and even fantasizing about what it would be like to get into a relationship or FWB situation with SH from the app, thinking what I'd say when I meet her, picturing us in different situations and conversations, etc. This morning I was thinking about it even more too, feeling great and awesome. When I started listening to my DMSI 3.1a loops, I started feeling a bit uncomfortable or moody or anxious or something I can't put my finger on.

After thinking about it, I'm hypothesizing that it might be DMSI making me reverse my somewhat intense emotional investment in SH that occurred yesterday night and this morning, sort of like maybe preventing one-itis, or emotionally investing too hastily? I don't know. But once I accepted the notion of not really "caring" about her as much, and started getting my mind off her and thinking/doing other things, I started to feel more comfortable.

[dissonance]

I think I'm going to start listening with louder volume and see how that goes.

[dissonance]

I'm getting this feeling now almost all day where I feel antsy/bored/empty or maybe even a little depressed. And in my mind, for some reason I keep thinking to myself that the only way to "fix" this feeling is to meet up with SH and start hanging out with her. Like it's hard for me to think or concentrate about anything else.

I don't know if this is something that has to do with DMSI 3.1a or not, but in case it is, I'm mentioning it here.

[mat422]

Sounds like the discomfort module is kicking in to get you to execute.

[dissonance]

Ah is that what this is?

[mat422]

That would be my guess. I've encountered that feeling many times. In theory it was supposed to work as a way to discourage us from resisting by feeling discomfort and feeling pleasure when we execute.

[dissonance]

Oh lmao. Well here's to both of us achieving the goals and finding a gf or whatever it is you're looking for. I feel like I'm really close. LETS GOOOO

[ImFreeman]

I'm also chatting with a 10/10 blue haired lesbian girl, and hopefully will meet up with her and meet potential partners through her.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aposematism

[dissonance]

Getting more and more attraction from SH with out messaging exchanges. Also it seems like my sleep quality is getting worse, and/or my anxiety is getting higher, and mood getting lower. Very strange. I guess I'm resisting as I'm getting closer and closer to losing my v-card.

I wonder if DMSI can cause the subconscious to sabotagingly alter brain & body chemistry in a way that causes depression/anxiety, or sleep quality issues, if you're resisting.