DMSI, will you be the final piece of puzzle?

[SargeMaximus]

1. Porn no longer turns me on. I still check some porn and celebrity sex scenes (I suppose this is equivalent to softcore porn), as it is still somewhat of an habit. (which is slowly dying.) I don't get turned on by these stuff. (I'd say about 95% of the time, it doesn't turn me on. Only about 5% I get turned on, but the level of turned on is not that high, and temporary.)

Yeah porn isn't doing anything for me either. I still watch it but it's like "meh". I don't fap to it. I guess I just like women's bodies.

But yeah, since the kiss, porn doesn't compare.

2. I don't know how to put this situation, so I will describe what happened. Two nights ago, I was flipping channel after skipping BBC (as I already watched the content in the past), then I stumbled upon one channel, and saw a cute reporter. I don't know, I got immediately hooked up to the girl, and I searched the girl online, and watched some more stuff put by her. Last night, I was checking her again (I suppose this isn't exactly healthy either), and found her with a dress. It was pretty tight dress that was showing her curve lines, and also nipple and areola lines. (It wasn't see through, but it was quite tight that the lines became quite transparent.) I got so turned on by that I had to fap on it. Normally, I wouldn't have done this, nor I would have been so turned on by stuff like that. But this time, I did it, and at the same time, I was imagining embracing the girl, while she is riding me, imagining her shivering from orgasm, while I suck her nipple, imagining her moaning and gasping, and etc. Again I never do this, but I did that.

3. I suppose the reporter girl is not a real girl in a sense that I don't have a chance of meeting her. (Technically there is always a chance, but what's the probability?) However, the girl is much more real girl than porn stars or celebrities having sex in the movie. So in that sense, I feel that I am moving in a better direction, and healing is happening. Also, jerking off to a girl with a sexy dress, while imagining having sex with her, may not be all that healthy and etc, but I think that I am moving towards more real sex, and getting myself connected to real sex more while getting disconnected from fake and unreal sex.

Cool. I went through a similar phase on DMSI as well where I'd fantasize about the women I knew from real life or women I saw.

As for the reporter girl, don't be so sure you won't manifest her. Didn't Shannon say that such manifestations are now possible with v3.0.1?

[sw72hw]

As for the reporter girl, don't be so sure you won't manifest her. Didn't Shannon say that such manifestations are now possible with v3.0.1?

I didn't even think about the possibility of manifesting her. Speaking of which, I noticed her tweet yesterday that she is coming to my town next month. (Unfortunately, after my semester starts.)

Oh well, who knows what's going to happen though. :angel: Yet, I'm not going to only limit myself to the girl. (Well, I don't know her enough, nor I've even met her in real life. Therefore, I think it's silly to even lock myself to her.)

[SargeMaximus]

As for the reporter girl, don't be so sure you won't manifest her. Didn't Shannon say that such manifestations are now possible with v3.0.1?

I didn't even think about the possibility of manifesting her. Speaking of which, I noticed her tweet yesterday that she is coming to my town next month. (Unfortunately, after my semester starts.)

Oh well, who knows what's going to happen though. :angel: Yet, I'm not going to only limit myself to the girl. (Well, I don't know her enough, nor I've even met her in real life. Therefore, I think it's silly to even lock myself to her.)

True. Definitely not very likely.

The coincidence is interesting though.

[sw72hw]

I'm torn now. Right now I got some extra money from insurance reimbursement. I'm so torn between buying PS4 pro (which I have wanted, and I definitely want to play a few exclusive games on it) and hiring professionals for online dating (apps and/or sites.) I didn't realize that hiring professional photographers was that expensive (it can go over $300), and there are so many to choose!

Technically, I can buy both, but it will cause serious problems later on. I will soon need to purchase textbooks (which can be up to $1,000 in the worst case, but usually ranges from $300~500. Well, I saw that one of the program that I'm gonna need to use for this semester costs $6,300, if I were to buy it...... Hopefully virtual machine that school provides is fast enough to keep me sane.) Therefore, even buying one may put me in some trouble, but I think I can manage with buying one.

My one weak side is kicking in: decision making between the last two. PS4 Pro or dating photos?

About 1/2 to 2/3 of my brain is telling me to buy PS4, as it is something that is going to last much longer than the photo (how long can I use the same photos for Tinder, Match, or other similar services?), and about 1/3~1/2 of my heart is telling me to buy PS4.

On the other hand, 1/3 to 1/2 of my brain is telling me to hire a photographer (which then will be another difficult choice to figure out with whom I want the photo shoot with). 1/2~2/3 of my heart is telling me to hire the photographer, and about 100% of my cock is inclining towards the photographer.

What am I supposed to do? (And why do I have a feeling that many of you guys will say neither, or will tell me to go with the photographer?)

[eternity]

: (And why do I have a feeling that many of you guys will say neither, or will tell me to go with the photographer?)

Because you already know what's right for you.

I say a photographer just for dating pictures is a waste of money.

You're better off walking around and asking strangers to take pictures of you on your phone . After one solid day of doing this, you should have plenty of qualifying pictures to use.

If you have more intelligent ways to be using this money you have, it would be unintelligent to use the money otherwise. I'm sure you already know that. But of course you are free to do what you want anyway.

That's my 2 cents!

[SargeMaximus]

300 is way too much for a photographer. I forget what country you live in, but there is a service called "groupon" in North America where you can usually find great deals on photographs.

I got 3 professional photographs for $70, but the poses were shit.

Make sure you find some good poses that will appeal to women, and then, if you have somebody you know who takes pictures, get them to take the picture for you.

I'm going to do this with my brother once it warms up. I'm gonna pay him $15 an hour (which is more than he makes at work, so it's win win).

[sw72hw]

Because you already know what's right for you.

I say a photographer just for dating pictures is a waste of money.

You're better off walking around and asking strangers to take pictures of you on your phone . After one solid day of doing this, you should have plenty of qualifying pictures to use.

If you have more intelligent ways to be using this money you have, it would be unintelligent to use the money otherwise. I'm sure you already know that. But of course you are free to do what you want anyway.

That's my 2 cents!

I've heard about this before. The only reason I'm thinking of hiring a professional is that I look much worse when I'm in the photo. (I think I freeze much more than other people in front of cameras.) And I also read that people recommend hiring professional photographers. Yet, I'm still undecided Still I appreciate your opinion.

300 is way too much for a photographer. I forget what country you live in, but there is a service called "groupon" in North America where you can usually find great deals on photographs.

I got 3 professional photographs for $70, but the poses were shit.

Make sure you find some good poses that will appeal to women, and then, if you have somebody you know who takes pictures, get them to take the picture for you.

I'm going to do this with my brother once it warms up. I'm gonna pay him $15 an hour (which is more than he makes at work, so it's win win).

I wanted to avoid giving out my location, but I currently live in the US' capital, and everything here is expensive. (Compared to the time I was in Minnesota, it is literally more than double the living cost here.)

So this $300 photographers were basically when I searched for professional photography for online dating (something like this.) I also searched for other non-online dating specific photographers, and they charge a lot too. (I mean like charging $300 for 2 pictures for an hour studio photo session.) Groupon seems to work (like it's down to the level you mentioned), and definitely cheaper, but I'll need to figure out which one is the right one.

Either I ask random people for taking photos or hire professionals, how many pictures will I need for the apps and the websites? You also mentioned about good pose. What's a good pose for dating profile? (Shouldn't the professional know though?)

I'm such a noob for this stuff.

[SargeMaximus]

You don't have to say exactly where you are. Just say "yeah, I'm in north america". You can edit your post if you want to keep that hidden.

Either I ask random people for taking photos or hire professionals, how many pictures will I need for the apps and the websites? You also mentioned about good pose. What's a good pose for dating profile? (Shouldn't the professional know though?)

I'm such a noob for this stuff.

I forget how many Good Looking Loser suggests but you should check out his online dating advice. It's in one of those articles.

Lol @ the professional photographers. They SHOULD know what is a good pose (you are right) but they probably don't unless they're really good (and really expensive). The question is: why pay for a guy to tell you how to pose if you already know how to pose???

Some good examples are here:









EDIT: Those are some good style examples too.

[sw72hw]

Well I found pretty cheap deal on Groupon. (Less than $50) I already contacted the guy and let's see what he'll say. I may look more and contact a few photographers. (I'm determined to spend less than $100 for this at most, but aiming for something more like $50. Otherwise, I'm gonna be like screw this.)

I also noticed something interesting. I went to one of the cathedrals to get a small desk calendar. (I got a one with angels in it in the past, and I liked it. So I was hoping to find another one.) Sadly, they didn't carry the calendar.

Of course, their not having the calendar isn't the reason I'm writing this. I'm writing this post as I found that I was just feeling all blissful and happy, fun, and etc. It was quite windy and was definitely much colder than a few days ago. I don't normally enjoy gust, but today, I was like, "Oh, it's so fun, strong wind!" And I also thought, it would have been fun to take photo today (because of the wind), but would have produced terrible results.

I don't know if it was this euphoria that clouded my perception, but I felt that my feeling good and happy was spilling to some people. (Some were not so receptive. Hmm. )

I'm also feeling pretty childish, I feel like an happy child now. LOL

What the hell is DMSI doing to me?

[sw72hw]

You don't have to say exactly where you are. Just say "yeah, I'm in north america". You can edit your post if you want to keep that hidden.

Either I ask random people for taking photos or hire professionals, how many pictures will I need for the apps and the websites? You also mentioned about good pose. What's a good pose for dating profile? (Shouldn't the professional know though?)

I'm such a noob for this stuff.

I forget how many Good Looking Loser suggests but you should check out his online dating advice. It's in one of those articles.

Lol @ the professional photographers. They SHOULD know what is a good pose (you are right) but they probably don't unless they're really good (and really expensive). The question is: why pay for a guy to tell you how to pose if you already know how to pose???

Some good examples are here:









EDIT: Those are some good style examples too.

As far as the number of pictures go, the guy (which you recommended me to check) mentioned something about main photo, and 2~3 supporting photos. I suppose that means 3~4 photos in total.

And I find it interesting that I tend to do 2 and 3 normally. I do pose 3 a lot especially, when I need to stand on for a while, and when there is a wall/pole nearby. (Though my hand placement may be different.) I don't do those poses a lot in the pictures though, and unfortunately, I don't think I look as good as the guy in the picture.

[eternity]

I don't think I look as good as the guy in the picture.

i don't think this matters as much as it may seem

[Chris P. Bacon]

I don't think I look as good as the guy in the picture.

i don't think this matters as much as it may seem

I agree, just as women have unrealistic expectations on them so do we, ours are just a bit more subtle. Don't worry about the guy with the 1-in-100,000 looks, he's probably pretty shallow in the character department because nobody expects it from him.

[eternity]

i should probably elaborate more on my statement. what i meant was that on a scale of 1-10, being between 5 and 7/8 should be relatively equal as far as the results you obtain from online dating. (i don't have science or data to back this up so don't lynch me, just what i know of the whole concept). obviously you should get nice looking clothes and have a nice hairstyle in the pictures you take. even if you're a 10/10 guy, looking like an ungroomed homeless man will serve you NO purpose.

so there, use the money you would have spent on a professional photographer to go into BarberShop, get a nice hairstyle, then go to a thrift store, get some fashionable clothez, and go on the streets and ask people to take pics of you in the poses that sarge posted above.

then? pick one or two of the best pics and go from there

now at least you'll have clothes you can use for a long time, as opposed to a photographer who will take your money and you'll have 3 useful pics and 300 useless pics to show for it.

[SargeMaximus]

I don't think I look as good as the guy in the picture.

i don't think this matters as much as it may seem

I agree, just as women have unrealistic expectations on them so do we, ours are just a bit more subtle. Don't worry about the guy with the 1-in-100,000 looks, he's probably pretty shallow in the character department because nobody expects it from him.

Well, I don';t think it's fair to judge people who look good on character if you've never met them, just saying.

But I agree with the rest: you shouldn't worry about your looks. You just want to maximze your looks (like how Good Looking Loser talks about).