(06-14-2016, 02:03 AM)kenpachi Wrote: This is what I was trying to explain when I said I had a "lovey" vibe rather than a sexual vibe with a girl I only just met. We were eye gazing and cuddly like it was post-sex... the sexual tension didn't seem to be there.I think this is a good thing, though, as it addresses the ASD objections she might have.
For the sake of science (even if you have no intention of escalating) next time you find yourself in that situation, just make a statement along the lines of, "Let's go somewhere with more privacy". If her ASD is still operating, she would instantly snap out of it. However, if this sub has done what it is intended for, then she would agree.
RE: 'Tension'
Think back to all the 'first times' with the partners in your lives. Nothing says that 'tension' is a prerequisite. Most times, it just sort of happens, after the initial days (or weeks) of blue balls/tension. Lots of tension, usually means just lots of LMR to overcome due to ASD.