(10-14-2016, 09:29 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: .autopilot kicked in today and I took it upon myself to sit next to the hottest girl in the room, without any second thought. we exchanged some friendly banter. other guys in the room looked at me with expressions like "what the hell is this guy thinking? the nerve of him sitting next to a girl like that?" but once I found out she has 1 day clean off drugs, i stopped engaging with her becuase it's against my code to engage with girls who haven't reached a certain level in their recovery.

(10-15-2016, 01:55 AM)4Kingdoms Wrote:

(10-14-2016, 09:29 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: .autopilot kicked in today and I took it upon myself to sit next to the hottest girl in the room, without any second thought. we exchanged some friendly banter. other guys in the room looked at me with expressions like "what the hell is this guy thinking? the nerve of him sitting next to a girl like that?" but once I found out she has 1 day clean off drugs, i stopped engaging with her becuase it's against my code to engage with girls who haven't reached a certain level in their recovery.

Rules.... it's too bad you judged a book by it's cover. The girl is trying and she opened up to you about her recovery.

When my friend asked me to be his wingman (15 year ago) and introduced me to pick up. He had so many rules. His retort was, "I didn't learn pick up to just be friends." And my response was, "You could have made a friend and she may have introduced you to one of her friends and that "friend of hers" could have been "the one".

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Eternity, I'm not judging you. I have rules and they hold me back. We are all here to learn. I'm learning day by day, just like everyone in this forum.

(10-15-2016, 02:49 AM)bogdy Wrote: Do you use pheromones with dmsi?

(10-15-2016, 05:29 AM)eternitys_child Wrote:

(10-15-2016, 01:55 AM)4Kingdoms Wrote:

(10-14-2016, 09:29 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: .autopilot kicked in today and I took it upon myself to sit next to the hottest girl in the room, without any second thought. we exchanged some friendly banter. other guys in the room looked at me with expressions like "what the hell is this guy thinking? the nerve of him sitting next to a girl like that?" but once I found out she has 1 day clean off drugs, i stopped engaging with her becuase it's against my code to engage with girls who haven't reached a certain level in their recovery.

Rules.... it's too bad you judged a book by it's cover. The girl is trying and she opened up to you about her recovery.

When my friend asked me to be his wingman (15 year ago) and introduced me to pick up. He had so many rules. His retort was, "I didn't learn pick up to just be friends." And my response was, "You could have made a friend and she may have introduced you to one of her friends and that "friend of hers" could have been "the one".

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Eternity, I'm not judging you. I have rules and they hold me back. We are all here to learn. I'm learning day by day, just like everyone in this forum.

I feel what you're saying. But I have this rule for the protection of woman's life. Let's say I get with her, we go our separate ways, but she is attached emotionally and doesn't know how to deal with the emotions so she goes and relapses on drugs and overdoses and dies. I've witnessed it happen. That's why I have the rule.

(10-15-2016, 11:58 AM)eternitys_child Wrote: I don't expect anyone to understand. It's a deep topic that goes beyond what I care to elaborate on.

Let's just say I'd rather not get with broken women who are trying to do something about changing their lives. I find no pride in that. It would be the same as hooking up with a homeless girl saying "look at me I got laid!" It's too easy, and doesn't add value to anyone involved.

It's one of my rules and it will always be one of my rules. If you guys have seen 1/4th the crazy shit I've seen in my years in recovery, you would understand.

(10-15-2016, 11:58 AM)eternitys_child Wrote: I don't expect anyone to understand. It's a deep topic that goes beyond what I care to elaborate on.

Let's just say I'd rather not get with broken women who are trying to do something about changing their lives. I find no pride in that. It would be the same as hooking up with a homeless girl saying "look at me I got laid!" It's too easy, and doesn't add value to anyone involved.

It's one of my rules and it will always be one of my rules. If you guys have seen 1/4th the crazy shit I've seen in my years in recovery, you would understand.

(10-16-2016, 03:19 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: I'm making a list of people i have resentments for. In the list, I identify who it is, why I resent them, how it affects me... and finally what part I played in it. In the women I listed, there's a common theme. I resent them because they lose attraction for me but my part is that I don't make my moves fast enough. So it's my own damn fault. I really hope dmsi can help with that.

(10-16-2016, 03:29 PM)4Kingdoms Wrote:

(10-16-2016, 03:19 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: I'm making a list of people i have resentments for. In the list, I identify who it is, why I resent them, how it affects me... and finally what part I played in it. In the women I listed, there's a common theme. I resent them because they lose attraction for me but my part is that I don't make my moves fast enough. So it's my own damn fault. I really hope dmsi can help with that.

I'm still "attracted" to a lot of women that I've lost interest in for one reason or another.

This girl I'm "attracted" to; stopped talking to me. I tried to be her friend but I looked like I'm desperate every time I went up to her to have a conversation because she ignored me. I lost interest in her personality... but I'm still attracted to her looks.