(06-25-2024, 03:55 PM)Darkness Wrote: Your crush brought a third person to a party of TWO. The movie hangout.

She doesn’t want to be alone with you. 
Respectfully, disagreeing with Shannon’s opinion.


Getting her alone will not sweeten her up, nor up her attraction level. 

Confronting her won’t achieve anything, you’re hoping. 
Hope mixed with attraction is distorting your logic right now.


You are attracted to her, she’s not attracted towards you & her interest is barely there: … evidenced by her lackluster texting.

(06-25-2024, 03:55 PM)Darkness Wrote: Your crush brought a third person to a party of TWO. The movie hangout.

She doesn’t want to be alone with you. 
Respectfully, disagreeing with Shannon’s opinion.


Getting her alone will not sweeten her up, nor up her attraction level. 

Confronting her won’t achieve anything, you’re hoping. 
Hope mixed with attraction is distorting your logic right now.


You are attracted to her, she’s not attracted towards you & her interest is barely there: … evidenced by her lackluster texting.

(06-25-2024, 01:43 AM)Johannesbrst Wrote:

(06-24-2024, 05:31 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: The other server is at a different restaurant than the twins.

I agree that just being chill and social is all There is to do until I can figure a way to get my crush alone so I can talk to her as Shannon suggested.

Something will present itself sooner or later on that.

Not sure if it benefits you to talk about her as "your crush". I believe that may create the frame for yourself that cause oneitis, which may further make it harder to keep it relaxed and cool. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

(06-25-2024, 08:30 PM)Topaz Wrote:

(06-25-2024, 01:43 AM)Johannesbrst Wrote: Not sure if it benefits you to talk about her as "your crush". I believe that may create the frame for yourself that cause oneitis, which may further make it harder to keep it relaxed and cool. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

I second that 

And I think everything is possible

(06-26-2024, 07:44 AM)Shannon Wrote: This girl, you referred to as your crush, if you could have her in a relationship but it had to be committed, would you do it?

(06-26-2024, 08:12 AM)Diablojack00 Wrote:

(06-26-2024, 07:44 AM)Shannon Wrote: This girl, you referred to as your crush, if you could have her in a relationship but it had to be committed, would you do it?

Yes, I would.

(06-26-2024, 04:15 PM)Shannon Wrote:

(06-26-2024, 08:12 AM)Diablojack00 Wrote: Yes, I would.

That is what I was basing my advice to communicate with her on.

(06-26-2024, 07:30 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote:

(06-26-2024, 04:15 PM)Shannon Wrote: That is what I was basing my advice to communicate with her on.

I'm with you on that. I'll see her in a few days when I visit the restaurant again.

(06-27-2024, 01:51 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote:

(06-26-2024, 07:30 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: I'm with you on that. I'll see her in a few days when I visit the restaurant again.

I went to a smoked BBQ place I go to once a week and the server and I talked a little. She asked how I am, how was my day etc. 

As I ate I saw the hostess that she'd been my server before. 

We exchanged how are you etc.

When I went to pay the hostess came and stood next to me.

I paid and I asked when the hostess would be there again. She told me and I work that day so I asked what day after that.

This cashier next to her said we don't know till we get our schedule then the hostess said what day she thinks she worked next.

I said I I'll see ya sometime.

They said bye and I left.

Also, 

Before the restaurant I got a Swedish massage and during that hour the woman who was cute. 

That girl gave me the best Swedish massage I've ever had in my life.

She at times got closer than any massage therapist to my privates.

She joked about a happy ending. That was weird lol

I think that's probably something she's done before to others.

Not sure. That's just what happened.

(06-27-2024, 10:45 PM)Topaz Wrote:

(06-27-2024, 01:51 PM)Diablojack00 Wrote: I went to a smoked BBQ place I go to once a week and the server and I talked a little. She asked how I am, how was my day etc. 

As I ate I saw the hostess that she'd been my server before. 

We exchanged how are you etc.

When I went to pay the hostess came and stood next to me.

I paid and I asked when the hostess would be there again. She told me and I work that day so I asked what day after that.

This cashier next to her said we don't know till we get our schedule then the hostess said what day she thinks she worked next.

I said I I'll see ya sometime.

They said bye and I left.

Also, 

Before the restaurant I got a Swedish massage and during that hour the woman who was cute. 

That girl gave me the best Swedish massage I've ever had in my life.

She at times got closer than any massage therapist to my privates.

She joked about a happy ending. That was weird lol

I think that's probably something she's done before to others.

Not sure. That's just what happened.

My opinion:

Sometimes if they feel comfortable or like you they offer it this way.
I wouldn't take it because then you need to pay for it as well.
And it keeps the client frame.


I would flip it on her
Tell her you need to buy me dinner before you hit on me like that 
And then say something actually I usually give the happy ending to women but we will talk about it after the massage 
Ask when she finish work or take the digits

(06-28-2024, 06:49 AM)Diablojack00 Wrote:

(06-27-2024, 10:45 PM)Topaz Wrote: My opinion:

Sometimes if they feel comfortable or like you they offer it this way.
I wouldn't take it because then you need to pay for it as well.
And it keeps the client frame.


I would flip it on her
Tell her you need to buy me dinner before you hit on me like that 
And then say something actually I usually give the happy ending to women but we will talk about it after the massage 
Ask when she finish work or take the digits

Not a bad way to go but I will probably just decline the extra services if she mentions them.

I have heard of plenty massage therapist secretly offering extra services. I finally met one lol

(06-28-2024, 09:13 AM)Topaz Wrote:

(06-28-2024, 06:49 AM)Diablojack00 Wrote: Not a bad way to go but I will probably just decline the extra services if she mentions them.

I have heard of plenty massage therapist secretly offering extra services. I finally met one lol

I ment to hang out with her afterwards without paying for anything just as a hangout and see what things lead