(09-05-2014, 07:09 AM)swisston Wrote: Don't forget that many women have a 'default bitch face' :) It doesn't mean it is anything to do with you, they just have a serious/harsh normal expression (same for men of course) and they are probably entirely unaware that they are walking around frowning at people.

(09-05-2014, 05:49 AM)LionKing Wrote: btw, I don't have a brother so that's someone else

Quote:hmm, you may have a point. Though depression by itself isn't really empowering, I usually feel like I want to stop the whole thing and "accept my place"?

Quote:Well ok, there is still some anxiousness, but the horniness gets so heavy it gets buried under it. Its like I explode a little bit inside if I lock eyes with some hottie

(09-05-2014, 08:26 AM)athanas Wrote: Depression never comes alone. It is just the low that is caused by the high of anxiety. If you clear anxiety your depression should be cleared as well. But if you clear your depression first, you don't give your body the regeneration it needs from the anxiety overdrive. Same reason why coke users get depression, but instead of anxiety they put their body in other ways on overdrive.

(09-05-2014, 07:22 AM)LionKing Wrote: Yeah, you're probably right. I've just been so insecure during those seconds that its been like a kick in the balls

Anyway, I found a flaw in my step-by-step method... tried it for the 2nd time now and all I got was extremely horny. Shit, lol. Well ok, there is still some anxiousness, but the horniness gets so heavy it gets buried under it. Its like I explode a little bit inside if I lock eyes with some hottie. When I went to get some take-out tee, the waiter seemed pretty much uninterested and would only glance at me briefly.. but then I had the feeling she was looking at me a lot from the side when getting the water and the cup I got was about half bigger than its ever been, so..

Well, I'll try to find something negative about it & clear it. Or at least run a positive track. I'll be going out tonight anyway. Maybe I should also start holding eye contact with guys and everyone just to get the insecurities cleared.. don't really want to, but I might.

(09-05-2014, 10:23 AM)guilotine Wrote:

(09-05-2014, 07:22 AM)LionKing Wrote: and all I got was extremely horny.

Isn't this a good thing? I remember we discussed about holding strong eye contact while being in a sexual state is good for seduction. I think RSD calls this "State Transference". Maybe you should utilize this feeling in a productive way.

(09-05-2014, 05:49 AM)LionKing Wrote: athanas - yep, I'm being somewhat selective about it. I read Tim's book on pstec and sexual issues and he seemed very cautious towards clearing (deleting) sexual desire and attraction. And I want my desire to be very high, for reasons mentioned on the Bed mastery thread.

(09-05-2014, 03:46 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: Damn, really? I went and cleared a HUGE horny desire I had from porn just the other day. Guess I'll see where it gets me. >>

(09-05-2014, 05:30 PM)athanas Wrote:

(09-05-2014, 03:46 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: Damn, really? I went and cleared a HUGE horny desire I had from porn just the other day. Guess I'll see where it gets me. >>

Theres a book about PSTEC targeted to clearing sexual urges specifically. You definately should look that up. It says if properly used it can cure almost any sexual dysfunction, from bed performance anxiety, to Impotence, to Paraphilia down to Premature Ejaculation and Addiction.

If used improperly, you could lose your sex drive and attraction, arousal to anything whether conditioned or "born with". That's how powerful PSTEC is... you have to be careful not to clear the sub away.

(09-05-2014, 08:37 PM)stratos Wrote: you can't "clear away" the ability to react in the future in a normal way. you'll get horny when you see a hottie. you'll get angry when threatened. you'll get sad when there's a loss. you'll be happy when you find something you thought you lost.

"clearing" just removes the emotions that haven't been expressed or are associated with a "type" of situation where you associate a certain emotion with a certain thing such as blondes or st bernards or teachers or whatever.

in essence, "clearing" makes a blank slate for emotions to be appropriate and correct to the situation in the future. like removing old dead wood so a new tree can grow.

it's not possible to "clear" horniness unless you have some repressed dark frustrated horniness that s stuck in you and in the way of a normal no-baggage horniness.

Quote: "When I created pstec, I did with one purpose in mind: I simply wanted a tool that could be used to detach emotions from events. ... In other words, pstec is simply designed to be a neutralizer of feelings attached to events."
-PSTEC Level 1 - Therapy course audio - from 3:23 to 4:02

Quote:SEXUAL JEALOUSY
Jealousy is bad mkay ....... Some people make the mistake of vividly imagining their partner having graphic sex and then Click Tracking that. It's not the best approach in this instance. Firstly there is no benefit to be had by doing that or by making it sexually graphic. Also, when you do use the Click Track to deal with the jealousy aspect, you don't want to inadvertently hit any of your own excitement connected to the sexual act itself. This is because you also don't want to reduce any of your own desire for your partner. If you inadvertently did that then you'd subsequently have to work on your beliefs related to desire in order to rebuild it.

INCOMPATIBLE LIBIDOS
... Sex drive should not be Click Tracked unless dealing with something such as Nymphomania or a full blown sex addiction. If you simply want to be more compatible in terms of libido with your partner and the difference is not vast, sex drive can be safely lowered by using PSTEC Positive to directly suggest it.

NYMPHOMANIA AND SEX ADDICTION
... In order to lower your feelings towards sex, you would imagine the biggest and most inappropriate “turn on” and use a PSTEC Click Track on it. As you do this you will need to try to feel excited throughout. Before doing this be sure that you understand how to use the Click Track and test it on something completely different first. Only use it in the manner just described after you are absolutely sure you are using it correctly and that it works for you.

Whenever Click Tracking sexual excitement you should be prepared to stop the track part way in order to check your level of feeling. This is because you want to lower it, but not completely of course. When using Click Tracks in this way, try ONLY to imagine sexual encounters with strangers and also in the kinds of locations where things have happened before that you would want to avoid in future. If there are any such events in your past about which you feel particularly ashamed, which were dangerous, very stupid or downright nasty then they make ideal candidates for this procedure. Be sure to recall that event and TRY hard to feel ONLY excitement as you use the PSTEC Click Track on it. Doing this should interrupt your addiction significantly. Whatever the result, wait a few days and monitor the effect. You can repeat this if necessary.

The following is unlikely but I include this just for the sake of completeness: If having done this you find it has inadvertently lowered your libido to a level which seems too low then be aware that you can reset it to a higher level by using PSTEC Positive. If however you have been prone to sex addiction you would be well advised to wait a few weeks before doing this. This is because your libido is likely to naturally elevate to a more normal level in that time.

(09-06-2014, 05:08 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: I have yet to notice any change since tapping on that scene (if anything, I'm hornier lol) but what do you mean by "I MUST have it"? Isn't that what lust is, and isn't that good? See, that's the exact feeling I had with that porn scene, so yeah.

(09-06-2014, 05:08 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: Anyhow, since you've tapped on the shame surrounding porn, do you find you're more accepting of it, maybe even don't care if your GF knows?

Quote:When he saw a woman he desired, he would ask himself, 'ok, what must I do in order for her to like me'. This is not showing love. The contrast to that, is how I feel when I see a woman I desire, 'I want to share her beauty with HER'. I see her 100 times more beautiful than she sees herself, and I share this with her.
...
Trees grow, the rain falls, night becomes day, and women are sexually attracted to men, and demonstrate this through sexual intimacy.
STOP GETTING IN THE WAY!