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RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-08-2021
Keeps getting better
Had to fire a guy at work (non-paid position) --- Did it without much hesitation and got major props from my boss. This will change my job and increase my responsibility but I feel ready for it.
Edit: I should add this is someone I've worked with for 5-6 years. He's always bugged me, and made my job miserable. Somehow in the last week it became intolerable to me and I simply executed, realizing I had the power to do so in my position. Now my boss knows I have balls.
Women are looking at me on the street and everywhere, and I always end up in little conversations in enclosed spaces (deli, coffee shop, etc.). My walk has changed, I don't hesitate when crossing the street, approaching homeless people / tough dudes.
I had a date the other day that went really well, GF material.. Hopefully will see her again in a few days. Another date tomorrow with a different girl.. and I don't seem to hesitate about meeting up from the dating apps. More dates on the way unless I end up with a GF
Some days have been REALLY hard, but it was also like that before the Sub. But it feels like whenever I make it through those I'm lighter than before.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-09-2021
Another great effect I'm really noticing is fearlessness in facing my other emotions. I'm still going through very deep trauma, so it is extremely useful
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-17-2021
Nothing too much to report. I had a week or two of resisting by using porn and weed more. Due to the depth of my problem/habit with that it is pretty effective at keeping me from moving forward (major resistance).
Ive let it go again and I feel the program working with more power. It is making me deal with a tremendous amount of pain in my body, but it is releasing bit by bit. I have the sense the beginning of this subliminal may just be like that for me due to trauma, and then the real world results will start to pick up more (dating success being my primary goal for this year other than the things I've already been working on--- Would like to find a long time girlfriend and perhaps have some fun on the way). Cutting the porn will also help with real world attraction. Wish me luck
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - Shannon - 04-17-2021
It isn't luck you need my friend, but best of luck anyway!
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-19-2021
This is pretty insane for me. working on very deep, core fears. Sheer terror at some moments but I am moving through it.It is a great feeling of strength to come out the other side
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-21-2021
Encountering a lot of resistance to continuing. Didn't play the track last night. Made it through one loop this morning as a makeup. I couldn't wait until it was over.
It's definitely pressing up against some stuff. Going to limit to 3 loops as I'm feeling pretty vulnerable. Been getting stomach aches and panic etc.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-22-2021
going down to 3 loops yesterday was a big help. Taking today off, and then I'll listen tonight, and get back on a night schedule of 3 loops, perhaps 4.
I felt the obvious external/social effects of the program kick in again as I was out today waling around. Women are noticing my freedom, experiencing a lot of engagement through eyes, but no conversations today. I feel good and ready to date again, doing some online dating stuff.
It feels like at a pace I can handle again. I think I was simply listening way too much and not monitoring, and all my deepest fears started coming up too fast. It was pretty crazy, and I nearly sabotaged everything. I'm sure I released some of it, and hopefully whatever's left will filter out at a more appropriate pace over the coming months.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-23-2021
This is incredible. I don't really know what else to say. Very smooth after reducing to recommended amount.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 04-27-2021
Part of me is wondering if LTU would've been a better choice, due to the amount of other feelings/experiences I'm dealing with (Shame, Rage, Trauma, etc.)
This subliminal is definitely having a great effect on my fear, but I'm wondering if it's scope may be limited with the other kind of blocks I keep running up against. I am working on them through body work, therapy, meditation however. Not going to make a change now, but curious if anyone could weigh in on this.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - Shannon - 04-27-2021
LTU is a good choice, but the question is, how are these emotions related and what are they stemming from? And, which approach is best? A rifle (OF, precision focus) or a shotgun (LTU, multi-focus)? Without knowing the subconscious psychology of the situation, we can't know how to answer this. It may be that removing fear is going to release these other emotions that have been held back and bottled up by fear, which will then be cleared naturally as a result. It may be that this is only revealing an issue that needs an alternate approach to deal with. We don't know. So it's a rather moot point.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 05-08-2021
Thankyou for the thoughtful reply ^^ -- Yes that's sort of what I surmised. We don't know. So I'll stick with this. It seems to be making my life better.
It is pretty smooth, but I have to say this is pretty incredible.
Because of the actions I've been able to take at work, my relationship with my boss is the best it's ever been. He commented on the "authority" with which I am now leading, an encouraged to continue. He seemed to be impressed with a major change in personality. I also feel that I have accepted my job much more, and this is contributing to a growing sense of self-contentment, where I used to hate myself for my job.
I have a fourth date coming up with a woman I really like. I have had severe sexual trauma so this is major, and I notice that the trauma is releasing quite rapidly. I am actively working on it via bodywork mediation etc, but I think the subliminal is pushing me to do so.
I feel like a man probably more than I ever have in my life. I also felt this way during Alpha Male, but this feels more natural (Alpha male was a bit more exaggerated, but felt a bit put on --- or I resisted it -- this just feels like ME), and like it's "just the beginning"
I've almost gotten in a few fights, I've been standing up to people when they do something wrong (I live in NYC so I see guys touching women inappropriately, etc.). I've also been able to de-escalate (I am a small frame and may not fare well) very effectively and intelligently. But the fear is much less, this goes with what I said about about feeling like a man. I feel like I could protect those around me and put myself on the line, but with intelligence and not brute force.
There's probably other stuff but this is what really stands out to me
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 06-07-2021
A little frustrated by all this hype on OFv3. Deciding whether I want to upgrade or stick it out. Now I'm being told this program isn't what you wanted it to be.
I am doing pretty well, there is a general zen about me, my addictions are down, digging more into trauma, reached out to some other healing practitioners who I think can help heal my sexuality, work is going smooth, moving forward with some music projects. I don't know that I feel free from fear, but my fear was very intense before and I am much more able to function it seems. I had a few dates, my fear of kissing is gone, but there are deeper fears of intimacy etc that surface and kind of killed the attraction. Going to just keep going for now... -- Until I'm able to really release my trauma I don't know that this (or any) program will have the total Fearless effect that we're seeking... So I am really working on that hence me seeking out some extra help.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - Shannon - 06-07-2021
It's a process. There are a lot of things that can get tangled in fear. The fear removal process will both reveal them and make them easier to heal. But don't stop, you're very clearly not finished yet.
RE: Back after a long break - Overcoming Fear - djl4 - 06-08-2021
Differences btwn listening during day and night?
I seem to prefer the day just because I can actually actively feel it doing it's thing, it's pretty obvious. Switched from Day to Night last couple days. Just curious on the findings w that