(09-05-2018, 12:51 PM)Have at ye Wrote: Continuing with ver. A, 9 loops, from Tuesday to Tuesday. During the ASRB break I was feeling kinda shitty most of the time, then it passed. I've been noticing I'm feeling shittier whenever I neglect my shielding regimen, because I get pestering, annoying thoughts regarding various people whenever I don't do it for 3-4 days (and they're, like, really annoying, and fighting them takes up *a lot* of my attention), and when I let them pile up, I start feeling bad about myself. So I'm gonna keep with the shielding regimen until ver. 3.3.

The dumbest thing about the whole deal is that they're usually aimed at me by people I work with or used to hang out with, and I was actually *afraid* and *expecting* that this would happen - people would start making problems for me *because they're envious*. Heh, showbiz. Like, f. in., it turns out that this fairly young conductor with whom I worked on a project recently (and with whom I've worked previously... and who has *never* been such an asshat meanie towards me like he's become this time around - we've had a pretty decent working relationship) is married to, like, designee's "sweet little aristocrat" BFF, and according to what I've learned, tried to bone said designee before getting married and got rebuked hard. And here I was wondering why is he making veiled comments regarding my dealings with said designee, lol, and acting all asshatty and AMOGy alluva sudden.

See, that's the kind of people I have to work with, lol. And they're sending bad mojo my way.

BTW., one more thing I noticed, and a possible reason for why many of my responders go with gaming/playing attempts: they're frickin' jealous. Very, very jealous. This may be a side effect of the "competing for sex" dealio I remember Shannon writing something about in his journal way back, or perhaps it's just how they are. But when I see a married woman, walking with her husband (we've always liked each other with the woman ), give me a panicked/nervous/jealous look - in such a blatant way that her husband *noticed it*, and this woman's got amazing self-control - simply because she sees me hanging out with another woman... not doing anything, just like, walking and talking... well... Yup.

(09-06-2018, 12:56 AM)Eslima5 Wrote:

(09-05-2018, 12:51 PM)Have at ye Wrote: Continuing with ver. A, 9 loops, from Tuesday to Tuesday. During the ASRB break I was feeling kinda shitty most of the time, then it passed. I've been noticing I'm feeling shittier whenever I neglect my shielding regimen, because I get pestering, annoying thoughts regarding various people whenever I don't do it for 3-4 days (and they're, like, really annoying, and fighting them takes up *a lot* of my attention), and when I let them pile up, I start feeling bad about myself. So I'm gonna keep with the shielding regimen until ver. 3.3.

The dumbest thing about the whole deal is that they're usually aimed at me by people I work with or used to hang out with, and I was actually *afraid* and *expecting* that this would happen - people would start making problems for me *because they're envious*. Heh, showbiz. Like, f. in., it turns out that this fairly young conductor with whom I worked on a project recently (and with whom I've worked previously... and who has *never* been such an asshat meanie towards me like he's become this time around - we've had a pretty decent working relationship) is married to, like, designee's "sweet little aristocrat" BFF, and according to what I've learned, tried to bone said designee before getting married and got rebuked hard. And here I was wondering why is he making veiled comments regarding my dealings with said designee, lol, and acting all asshatty and AMOGy alluva sudden.

See, that's the kind of people I have to work with, lol. And they're sending bad mojo my way.

BTW., one more thing I noticed, and a possible reason for why many of my responders go with gaming/playing attempts: they're frickin' jealous. Very, very jealous. This may be a side effect of the "competing for sex" dealio I remember Shannon writing something about in his journal way back, or perhaps it's just how they are. But when I see a married woman, walking with her husband (we've always liked each other with the woman ), give me a panicked/nervous/jealous look - in such a blatant way that her husband *noticed it*, and this woman's got amazing self-control - simply because she sees me hanging out with another woman... not doing anything, just like, walking and talking... well... Yup.

As a woman, I have to say, most women have amazing self control when it comes to sex/whatever. women are not like men in the sense that they easily give in to sexual desires. its is much more important to feel trust, safe and comfortable, than to give in to lust. lust doesn't mean much to a woman when it comes to action taking. the thing that will make a woman take action more, is love or infatuation. and even then, she will not make a move if she has a lot of doubts, or she is unsure. especially if there is a bad consequence. if a woman takes action, she must really really like you. its not just me, i know a lot of women are this way.....they can talk about crushes or whatever to their friends, but they don't do anything.....most of the time.....if she takes action, she must have a really aggressive personality or she must really like you a lot....it is just my observation, women are not very bold when it comes to things like this, especially if there's a bad consequence....women are naturally more cautious and less of a risk taker than men...it is funny, women can rant and rant to their friends, but will not do anything...maybe she can flirt or dance around, most of the time, she will not be direct....of course, there are always exceptions....but i think a lot of women are like this...most probably, she will not compromise her marriage, just for a fling....unless she doesn't care about her marriage

(09-06-2018, 12:56 AM)Eslima5 Wrote: As a woman, I have to say, most women have amazing self control when it comes to sex/whatever. women are not like men in the sense that they easily give in to sexual desires. its is much more important to feel trust, safe and comfortable, than to give in to lust. lust doesn't mean much to a woman when it comes to action taking. the thing that will make a woman take action more, is love or infatuation. and even then, she will not make a move if she has a lot of doubts, or she is unsure. especially if there is a bad consequence. if a woman takes action, she must really really like you. its not just me, i know a lot of women are this way.....they can talk about crushes or whatever to their friends, but they don't do anything.....most of the time.....if she takes action, she must have a really aggressive personality or she must really like you a lot....it is just my observation, women are not very bold when it comes to things like this, especially if there's a bad consequence....women are naturally more cautious and less of a risk taker than men...it is funny, women can rant and rant to their friends, but will not do anything...maybe she can flirt or dance around, most of the time, she will not be direct....of course, there are always exceptions....but i think a lot of women are like this...most probably, she will not compromise her marriage, just for a fling....unless she doesn't care about her marriage

(09-06-2018, 03:29 PM)bits Wrote:

(09-06-2018, 12:56 AM)Eslima5 Wrote: As a woman, I have to say, most women have amazing self control when it comes to sex/whatever. women are not like men in the sense that they easily give in to sexual desires. its is much more important to feel trust, safe and comfortable, than to give in to lust. lust doesn't mean much to a woman when it comes to action taking. the thing that will make a woman take action more, is love or infatuation. and even then, she will not make a move if she has a lot of doubts, or she is unsure. especially if there is a bad consequence. if a woman takes action, she must really really like you. its not just me, i know a lot of women are this way.....they can talk about crushes or whatever to their friends, but they don't do anything.....most of the time.....if she takes action, she must have a really aggressive personality or she must really like you a lot....it is just my observation, women are not very bold when it comes to things like this, especially if there's a bad consequence....women are naturally more cautious and less of a risk taker than men...it is funny, women can rant and rant to their friends, but will not do anything...maybe she can flirt or dance around, most of the time, she will not be direct....of course, there are always exceptions....but i think a lot of women are like this...most probably, she will not compromise her marriage, just for a fling....unless she doesn't care about her marriage

This is so true, from what I've seen the more a girl likes you the more she tends to run away from it especially the younger ones. Not too long ago one girl friend saying "no he doesn't like me, I already tried being aggressive with him and he hates me", I asked what she did and she said "i sat at his table and looked over as i sat down, he didn't look up at all, so i got up and left"

To be fair, for a girl to go sit down at some guys table in the library who she hasn't been introduced to with a smile is pretty aggressive, but i'd say 80-90% of guys wouldn't "get it" and continue on as normal. The only time i've seen women approach men in an obvious way is when they are nearing the point of blacking out on alcohol or drugs, I've never seen an a sober approach by a woman that looks anything like a male approach, it's all extremely subtle.

Also agree with the trust, safety, and comfort, I shake my head every time guys try to have the DMSI script do something along the lines of "make the sexual attraction 100x stronger, dont let her masturbate the attraction away, etc" lol the attraction could be 100,000x stronger but if there is no trust, safety, and comfort nothing will ever ever ever happen with that girl.

(09-07-2018, 05:20 AM)Have at ye Wrote: Well, I've experienced way more direct apporaches even from young girls and in public (and sober), but I guess that's DMSI magic.