(08-29-2018, 02:31 AM)Greenduck Wrote: [ -> ]The problem today is that people are so damn determined to "make their mark" on society, by changing people around them to be like themselves. Previously people fought for feminism by making it possible for women to vote, equal pay. They still do this, but the radical feminist want to change the way men behave, explaining it is a fight for feminism, but it is really just a expression of their own lack of self-esteem and ability to connect with men.
When women don't want to be women, men don't know how to deal with them and have to resort to stereotypes and in worst case overthinking, confusion, low-self esteem issues -> making the connection even harder and the women fight even harder to change how they behave.
Sometimes (largest understatement of today) women just make it harder than it has to be.
As someone previously stated - don't be bothered by these kind of women. It may be harder than it sounds, as they love when you are bothered with them, as this fuel that sense of doing "something right". So don't pay so much attention to what they think or want, just be yourself and have a good time. If they don't like it = their problem.
Agree.
Radical Feminists are evil, in that they are lowering the quality of life for everyone.
I have a permanent black eye on my record thanks to a female colleague who was obsessed with having MeToo stories to impress her friends. She publicly accused me of sexual harassment, and I got charged (in the form of a formal HR warning). I was innocent, and she was deceptive.
When defending myself, my manager (and manager’s manager) said that ‘she did the right thing’ [sic] and ‘consider her point of view’ [sic]. It felt very gaslighty and unfair.
I kept my job, and have avoided her ever since (she works in a different department). Now I tell my manager, whenever my job requires me to see her, “sorry but you will have to do those tasks. It is best if I never see her again”. My manager accepts this, and has more work to do (and I have less work), and my pay is the same as before (so I technically get more money VS productivity, since I’m less productive than before).
I haven’t seen her since. The false accusations happened in November 2017, just after MeToo was freshly turned into a punitive Feminist movement (as opposed to a movement that was meant to help rape victims, male and female).
MeToo started with good intentions, but has mutated into something evil. MeToo, now, ironically creates more misogyny, since decent men dislike being punished for things they never did.
At first I thought MeToo was an okay idea. But after being falsely accused, and unjustly punished, I’ve grown to hate MeToo, and the women who have radicalised it, with their petty whinging and punitive BS.
I’ve been unfriended/ blocked by lots of people on Facebook / social media, since I started posting regular anti-MeToo posts, that warn people about the destruction that MeToo is now having on society.
I warn people in real life that MeToo (in its current form) spreads fear / hatred, and that will just lead to more fear / hatred.
I tell people that if women genuinely respect men, then men will naturally respect women.
But still, the ‘free love’, hippie kind of Feminism seems pretty okay. But they are the minority. Hippie women tend to love men.
AFAIK, ~85% of modern Feminists are the radical, man-hating, destructive kind.
At the end of the day, I don’t care about labels / identities. As long as people are honest, trustworthy and respectful, then I am happy to be around those who are of goodwill and positive influences.
If I had a girlfriend (or FWB), then I expect that she is pro-sex, and genuinely loves sex, and that she has sex in a respectful way, and is honest / trustworthy enough to uphold my basic right of dignity / well-being.
I guess my ‘type’ of woman is honest, trustworthy, respectful and pro-sex, and happy with casual / FWBs arrangements.