(04-11-2015, 09:22 PM)in3deep Wrote: [ -> ] (04-11-2015, 04:57 PM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ] (04-11-2015, 06:33 AM)in3deep Wrote: [ -> ] (04-11-2015, 06:10 AM)Shannon Wrote: [ -> ]I met my perfect lover two years before we started sleeping together, and had no idea she was ever going to be that to me. In fact we didn't even talk for the first two months after we met. So you might have met her years back and don't even know it yet. The potential people have is not always what we look for.
this quote reminds meof my situation
after running this sub... i got a new job n some girl who i had a major crush on previously was working there... after being out of touch for 2 years suddenly we were back in touch... even thought i had gotten over her
led me to have some hope that the sub was making her come into my life again... somehow i developed some minor feelings and this week found out that she just got attached with someone else
so im abit down now... its like the set n forget method let me to be in contact with this lady and i assumed it was due to the sub... developed some feelings and realise shes not the one... now im abit unsure how to have it be set and forget
You are looking for the end goal, and almost certainly derailing your success by trying to consciously interfere in and steer the process by having expectations, being too invested in the outcome and allowing that to influence what and how you do things.
Set it and forget it requires that you stop worrying about it. I know the sub is working for me, and while it does, IDGAF because I have other things to take care of. The secret to success in this is getting out of your own way. IDGAF. In fact the need for a wife with this sort of response reveals that you are probably repelling your success with your neediness. Women run from neediness.
When I first met my perfect lover, she friend zoned me. Why? Well first, I was taken, but with her history that would not have stopped her had she really wanted me. Second, she later told me that I was "too much of a nice guy". When a couple years later I used AM 1.0 and kicked my GF to the curb for being a variety of things I won't specify that were no longer tolerable to me, my perfect lover saw this and stepped forward to fill her shoes. She called me, asked me out, and then at the end of our date, actively initiated some rather incredible sex with me. When I later found out that she had originally friend zoned me, I asked what had changed. "You did," she said. "You stopped being a nice guy."
Translation: You changed yourself into someone I was attracted to.
Maybe she is your perfect wife, but you just have not become what she is attracted to yet? Maybe she is waiting for you to outgrow the neediness? Or maybe she's not the one. In none of these cases does it matter. What matters is, you are in your own way, and you can't blame the program for failure if that's why it fails. So set it and forget it.
Neediness and desperation are a killer for women's attraction. So if you want a good shot at success, relax and let go and let the program do it's thing without interfering. Set it and forget it. Stop looking for her, and stop trying so hard. If you let it, and the external variables are right, everything will be done for you. Set it and forget it. Live your life, do your thing, and let your subconscious mind handle the rest. Remember that it is you. You can trust yourself. Just let it do what it's trying to do. Set it and forget it.
thanks shannon.. i do get what you are trying to say in theory
but in reality its abit hard.. cause i assume even when the sub bring the perfect person into your life... theres the process inbetween where u have to invest in emotionally such as thinking of wooing her and asking her out into dates etc before a relationship starts
if u don't do the above, the perfect person might never start a relationship with you... and you have the catch 22 situation where you dun know if the person whose in your life is the perfect person and u start emotionally investing thinking shes the one only to get hurt later finding out that shes not the one
so i think its hard to not emotionally invest when u have to take steps to go thru the wooing/dating process etc... having a IDGAF attitude only works if the girl is going to be taking all the initiative
Translation: I'm full of expectations that limit me and I'm afraid that they mean that I have to interfere, so, thanks, but I'll just keep interfering.
You don't get it.
Manifestation does not work like normal methods. When you encounter your perfect XYZ, and you've used manifestation to do it, those details are all taken care of for you. Everything else just clicks. Flows. Happens. It's like the most amazing series of the most natural coincidences you'll ever encounter.
I know this because I have used this method to find more girlfriends than I have fingers to count them with. Every single time I did it, I followed the same set it and forget it, and every single time I did it, if I was doing active manifestation it took about 2 weeks for her to show up, and most of the time 4 months for passive manifestations.
In every case, it happened without me trying consciously. At all. I just lived my life and it happened. Last time, for instance, I happened to decide to socialize in a nearby town and go to a drum circle to see what that was like. I ended up asking a woman for her phone number because she was looking like someone I could go kayaking with as a friend, and I wasn't even thinking anything but friends. After a couple kayaking outings (which she thought of as dates), and a dinner together on St. Patrick's Day, she asked me... "How come you haven't kissed me yet?" Caught me completely by surprise, but I went along with it and she turned out to me the perfect natural platinum blonde lover I called for. All the sex I wanted, whenever and wherever I wanted it, however I wanted it, as much as I wanted, and without any hesitation, ever.
There was one I met in a college class. Just walked in and STUN! There she was, long gorgeous wavy natural red hair, freckles, full lips and baby blue eyes. I approached her after class, which I NEVER did at that point, but I was so attracted that it was easy. Turned out we already knew each other from middle school, and I ended up having her as my girlfriend by the end of the night and having her so attracted to me that she wanted to have sex bent over the hood of the car in the street in front of her house.
There was the perfect lover I have told you about who was the black Jamaican woman, who called me and basically engineered a first date and then seduced me into sex on the first [Edit: whoops, second] date. We ended up dating for 4 years, and we still keep in contact 8 years later. To this day there is deadly sexual tension between us whenever we are alone together.
There was one who I met at an indoor garage sale being held in a fairgrounds building, another natural redhead (I like those, can you tell?) who had freckles and full lips, and when I saw her for the first time it was like someone threw a brick at my head. STUN! Neither of us could take our eyes off the other and in spite of being TERRIFIED to approach, I approached anyway (my attraction was stronger than my fear) and we exchanged numbers when I discovered she was just as stunned and attracted as I was.
She called
me a few days later and we ended up dating for quite a while.
I could go on, but the point is, in every one of these cases:
1. I used manifestation.
2. I set it and forgot it.
3. She showed up in my life without me looking for her or trying to find her, and always in ways I wasn't expecting.
4. No matter how scared I was of the interaction, I always found a way forward.
5. It always happened that no matter what obstacles there were, it somehow worked out.
6. It was not always obvious who she was at first, but it always worked out anyway.
7. I always got what I asked for.
The first two points are the key. Stop assuming that any one particular way or thing must happen. You are at Point A, and she is at Point B, and you let whatever else figure out the rest. Some people call it the Universe, some people call it the higher mind, etc. It knows about a lot of variables you don't, and it knows what it's doing. Just set it and forget it, and let that part of you or whatever it is, do what you're asking it to do.
I don't think it's going to matter what I say though. I'm noticing a pattern lately where I bang my head against the wall trying to get you guys to listen and understand, and it isn't happening.