(01-04-2015, 07:22 AM)rubman Wrote: [ -> ] (01-04-2015, 07:02 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: [ -> ]That's awesome. I myself still have trouble looking people in the eyes, because I project into the future hassles or negative things coming out of it.
The only problem is that I feel a bit like Hannibal lecter. xD People is not used to that.
Lol, don't worry about it, you'll get used to that power in time. And people aren't used to it because they're only used to being around common folk.
(01-04-2015, 07:22 AM)rubman Wrote: [ -> ]But, lets say I sit down in a place, I do look at a woman/girl I like who is more or less at sight. Then the woman reacts and looks at me.
The interesting part is they keep looking, some smile, some quit fast and turn back to look again in a few moments.
I can feel somekind of connection, maybe there is some energy there. Because everytime I feel that I feel very very relaxed.
There is. If you can embrace that energy and smile at the woman and invite her, she will most likely come closer. You don't have to speak. Simply learning to manipulate that energy is enough, it's almost like telepathy.
Play with it a little. I made a woman approach me last weekend with the same kind of thing.
(01-04-2015, 07:22 AM)rubman Wrote: [ -> ]Or... maybe Im getting a bit mad 
but the vast majority of men here are not able to look in the eye, or I havent observed that. Not in a coffee bar or something people is more doing his thing, except me of course I talk to friends and look at them at the same time like I dont mind xD
pd: I warn you, this is not the usual stuff for me. I have just turned into 37 y.o. so Im an old bloke looking them in the eye like a pervert and I get eyelooks back with interests and smiles. So, it MUST be the sub
Wow, had no idea you were so old lol. But it's not perverted, it's healthy. And you're just opening up to it, which is good.
(01-04-2015, 07:22 AM)rubman Wrote: [ -> ]pd2: I forgot to add two days ago I got in an argument with a woman I didnt know whom I just met in a party. I was like "Oh c'mon" throwing anti bS at her... at the end of the night she talked to me but I didnt like her so I was indifferent. I felt sorry but I think is better not put attention in people you are not attracted to or you can give false ilusion.
AS always, I hope you understand my english which is not my native language (im spanish).
I can understand fine. But yeah, when women do that they are testing you. I'm indifferent to it now. My course of action is to focus purely on the sex. If I want sex with her, I'll just stay grounded in that, and if she's just playing games she'll leave, but if she's interested, she will eventually come around and get turned on.
I was surfing some famous meeting sites online. Some people look so low on life how can be you make a photo without smiling...
I have REALLY über attractive women about 10 miles around me. In the past I would speak to them, now I feel I dont want to. I have some mobile apps where I have about 50 women waiting for a response (they made me know they like me) but I wont say a word. And all that with a cheap photo of me smiling, no fancy cars or whatever.
Talking with women online usually is useless with the exception that she makes a move and is interested in a meeting as soon as possible. All this because of what we call in spanish "pagafantas" is tipically men who would sell his mother to touch a boob. Whiteknighting isnt that the word? online sites here is full of them, extremelly desperate beta men, some are even handsome.
I think I am going to delete my profile in all meeting pages, I see its so useless now. I dont know why I feel this urge to delete myself from everyplace online where there are women.
Just a thought.
The vibe's much better in real life anyhow I'm finding. But it CAN transfer over text so long as you know how to convey it, which is kinda difficult. I find thinking about sex with the girl while you type to her helps.
I was having a very rough time with a friend (girl) of mine. I have known her for some time now and we were going to meet, just to fuck. We had very good feelings for each other and was very close to the kind of person I love.
She said she was busy with christmas, but had the time to get to know another man and fuck him as If I were shit. I as waiting all christmas like a stupid. I said to her, I dont wait so much for nothing, and Shoot her out a lot of BS of how mistaken she was and that she has betrayed me. I eliminated her from everywhere I have her, I said dont write to me, you are dead for me.
I dont know If I have acted like a real beta or not, jealous or not, but to me, nothing is more important to be true to what you say. If you say something dont do the opposite. Even the sex was not that important.
Sorry to sound a little loose, but My BS meter went to the roof and I think I did the correct thing, respect me or GTFO.
Cheers.
It's hard to know why she did it. Don't act on what you THINK she did, act on what she did. More than anything, I'd take this as a lesson to "pull the trigger". Make her reject you and say "NO." or don't pursue at all.
I recently had this kind of thing with a girl online. Talked to her forever, never proposed a meet or asked for her number. Literally, her last message to me was "..." lol. I deserve it for pussyfooting around.
At the end of the day we talked And I understood, the real alpha way should be " I dont care what she does"... So We are friends again and I wont care about her love life...
I think Not caring about what she does is exactly to be an alpha.. because the other way around is a bit coward (I was a bit furious).
I had have that kind of experience and my strategy was ,instead of fighting, be nice but careless and , getting laid whenever I wish.
(01-10-2015, 04:52 PM)rubman Wrote: [ -> ]At the end of the day we talked And I understood, the real alpha way should be " I dont care what she does"... So We are friends again and I wont care about her love life...
I think Not caring about what she does is exactly to be an alpha.. because the other way around is a bit coward (I was a bit furious).
Maybe it's just me, but I don't think you should think in lines of "what would real alpha do?". Do what you think and feel is right, don't limit yourself to some arbitrary ideas which might or might not make you happier.
It's like people saying "I must be good son/husband/insert whatever here". This kind of thing is bad for two reasons:
-you are forcing yourself into role you're not comfortable yet (if it was it'd be natural)
-it doesn't make you alpha as it changes nothing integral in you.
Don't be ashamed of your "beta" thoughts, as you will be more confident and there will be proof you are higher quality man those will disappear on their own, replaced by proper (not some imaginary) alpha thoughts. Just be yourself, don't be ashamed of being needy or down or whatever. Don't think, act. That's why stupid people tend to be happier.
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(01-10-2015, 04:52 PM)rubman Wrote: [ -> ]At the end of the day we talked And I understood, the real alpha way should be " I dont care what she does"... So We are friends again and I wont care about her love life...
I think Not caring about what she does is exactly to be an alpha.. because the other way around is a bit coward (I was a bit furious).
That can definitely have a huge impact on women, provided you stay in contact. I've had more than a few times where women have been insanely attracted to me once I displayed my indifference.
Mat! You make me laugh again with a picture >.<
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The best way to go over those "neediness" problems when they arise, is just be natural (as you said, dont think too much, just act relaxed)... So If I cant do anything on my part I will let people be free and do whatever, even if that means other guys getting the girl. Now that I think I act really beta on women I care so much. But well, there are more... incomiing!
Sometimes is not a win-win situation, but hey, its life.
We will se how it develops, Im almost 15 days on stage 3.
BTW, having lots and lots of dreams I cant remember even one, but in all of them there are women pursuing or doing something to me, that is for sure.
(01-10-2015, 05:12 PM)Mateunio Wrote: [ -> ] (01-10-2015, 04:52 PM)rubman Wrote: [ -> ]At the end of the day we talked And I understood, the real alpha way should be " I dont care what she does"... So We are friends again and I wont care about her love life...
I think Not caring about what she does is exactly to be an alpha.. because the other way around is a bit coward (I was a bit furious).
Maybe it's just me, but I don't think you should think in lines of "what would real alpha do?". Do what you think and feel is right, don't limit yourself to some arbitrary ideas which might or might not make you happier.
It's like people saying "I must be good son/husband/insert whatever here". This kind of thing is bad for two reasons:
-you are forcing yourself into role you're not comfortable yet (if it was it'd be natural)
-it doesn't make you alpha as it changes nothing integral in you.
Don't be ashamed of your "beta" thoughts, as you will be more confident and there will be proof you are higher quality man those will disappear on their own, replaced by proper (not some imaginary) alpha thoughts. Just be yourself, don't be ashamed of being needy or down or whatever. Don't think, act. That's why stupid people tend to be happier.
Good post, people are born salesmen, everybody tries to force you their beliefs about how you should act, even make you feel inferior for not being on the same level or having the same understanding of things. I think people mostly do it unknowingly with that feeling of "I am helping them by telling them what to do" almost like it's our duty to do so. I know because I've been on both ends too, sometimes doing things that are even absolutely stupid because someone convinced me.
Well. Stage 4 day 15.
As you know I work at home as a freelance (3d and 2d art and general computer graphical stuff, videogames,etc) So I dont get out as much as I would like I am more of a homelike person. The weather now in Spain isnt good to take a walk.
But sometimes I have to get out to fix things (bank accounting or similar) and I can see that even in stage 4 I do not observe very strange changes or something to note.
Maybe its a little dip in progress I am listening exactly the same times (8-12 h. day) but probably its a matter of not being aware of things.
I still look in the eyes by the streets but I do not worry a lot about the sub effects. I feel very well in the health deparment and very horny at all times.
Dreams wise I have more dreams with me as the leader, hero, whatever that I didnt have in the last months, more clear alpha attitude.
The mental chatter and depressive thoughts has gone and I feel calm at all times. My body language is very alpha as I walk totally straight with my head up most of time and with a strong, slow step, always.
One thing which is new is that I am more talkative with strangers, but no, I havent got yet a woman approach with stupid questions just to talk with me, not yet
Cheers.
PD. Dating sites, flooded with messages, but Im not interested. Most of the time online dates are problematic and women I dont like. Of course, if I find someone I like I will talk to her. Its strange as before I would be desperate to answer messages to the women and now I dont want to know anything about it... just wait if they want to write to me or no... For me its funny to see as they do not now how to approach even online...