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That's where I was before i started AM5.
Alpha Male 5 Completed – be all the man you can be
Alpha Male 5 Training Set Objectives Part One
Objectives of AM5 and my position after I completed it.
1. Let go of any negative self-image, attitudes, thoughts and beliefs about yourself.
Well I can say that I think a lot better of myself now than I ever did before, I feel a lot more grounded in myself.
2. Have a powerful, positive sense of self respect, self-esteem, self-image and self-worth.
Am sort of proud of how far am come and the changes I have made up to date. I lot more successes in my life would really help otherwise I feel better than I ever have felt before.
3. Have unshakable self-confidence.
I wouldn’t say I have unshakable self-confidence but I listen to my self-more and less of what I think people think about me which always tended to be negative, now I’ll more of happy that I will prove all those who thought less of me wrong.
4. Be unaffected by rejection.
I have been rejected and it was less painful than before, what I mean is I don’t get into the emotional state of what’s wrong with me, I sort of understand that if I was at the top of my game things would be different.
5. Treat women as people to enjoy the company of, without taking them too seriously, needing them, or being easily upset by them.
However this sounds, but I don’t think I need women to feel whole or complete whereas before my life depended on finding a mate and my self-worth on how many women I could/can sleep with. I used to see hot women and be in awe now something kicks in me like she’s hot so? ……
6. Have released expectations towards women, which often lead to bad choices, actions, attitudes, thinking and responses.
Bit of a conflict here, for me having released expectations and still trying to get into women’s pants according to “How to be an alpha male” book. I don’t know where I am now, but recent disappoints would probably make me never expect much.
7. Be self sufficient and self reliant mentally, emotionally and otherwise.
I have learnt the value of been self-reliant to a certain extent even influencing people is been self-sufficient as long as you have options and get the “job” done. Yea I now take full responsibility for my life and everything I do.
8. No longer be, or come across to others as “needy”.
I cut off one of my friends I knew since secondary school, he used to treat me like a homeless person as if I needed him and his friendship for shelter. One day he made me wait hours for him and I had enough. If you don’t paid my bills and breathe my air, then I don’t “need” you. I may “want” a person or a friendship but needing is a whole different ball game.
9. Take good care of yourself, your hygiene and your appearance, not just because you want to be attractive to beautiful women, but because it makes you feel good about yourself.
I would say AM5 didn’t work but I saw the most improvements here, I used to let things pile up in my room, didn’t wash up the blankets or clothes but now it’s a habit I get up and do my bed bath and tidy up. Everyone I live with as commented on this. So that’s the only thing I would total attribute to AM5.
10. Be able to effortlessly approach any woman you want – and the more attractive you find her, the easier it will be.
Yes I got over my approach fears. And I feel like speaking to attractive women when I see them. I just feel like we’ll kick it.
11. Be selective about whom you spend your time with, and which women you give your time, interest and affections to.
Did I tell you about the time I cut off my best friend for been a negative influence in my life?
12. Exude an aura of confidence, commanding presence and authority, which gets you respect, attention and obedience.
Well with my business I have had people working on projects I commissioned, I was at first uncomfortable with the idea and it felt wrong. But now am accepting the responsibilities of been a “boss”. Is it because or point 12, maybe, maybe not.
13. Exude an aura of sexiness that makes you much more attractive to the beautiful women you encounter. The more beautiful they are, the more attracted and interested they will be.
Don’t know about this one, having been out much to notice a difference.
14. Have a Zen attitude, which keeps you calm when other guys would lose control, thus demonstrating your self-control and mastery of the situation – an Alpha/dominant male trait.
The negative voice in my head is now under my control. But no situations have up have to make me notice anything related to this point.
15. Display graceful, confident body language, which broadcasts your power and dominance to all, but especially females (for whom body language is a very important way of communicating, and thus determining the men they are interested in).
Yes on one of the stages I become aware of my body language all the time, It was uncomfortable to sit in any other way. Even around females I would compare my body language to those of people around me. It has improved dramatically, but a part of me is still lazy and holding you upper body up all the time take energy I wasn’t used to using. But its improved every much.
16. Display the attitude, thinking, actions and speech patterns of an Alpha/Dominant Male.
I have taken up more responsibility I can’t explain it, it’s as if I don’t have control over all the details of my life but I have taken control over its direction. Like a captain of a ship may not control the sea but be can still navigate to his destination. But I think I best ask people about this one.
17. No longer seek approval from others, nor be concerned with what they think of you or what you do or say.
Yes, yes, and yes. This is a big one for me. Before I was a major issue but now it’s less of an problem. Sometimes I double guess my self and wonder what people must think of me (it was always bad) but now am more on the side of whatever they think about me now…., they think am great when am done.
18. Be your own man, who does what he wants, when he wants, how he wants, where he wants.
I think I have been impacted on this note. I have a crazy plan for my life that is not the norm and before I thought I a fantasy because of fears of what people would think and or see me as, think am nuts, or wasting my life, then I would start to question myself and my achievable dreams. Now I sort of realise that am going to die one day and whatever I thought was going to lose or gain in the end doesn’t matter.
19. Be in control when dealing with women, and especially beautiful women or women you are interested in.
Have not been around beautiful women to comment on this but am more comfortable been in control.
20. Be entirely unconcerned about “getting the girl” or achieving sexual interaction, which will make the ladies percieve you as higher status, higher value, and more worthy of both.
Yeah don’t know about this one too. Although since stopping porn I don’t view women and cum bags no more.
21. Be easily able and willing to walk away from people and situations you don’t like, and TELL HER NO – whether it’s to her asking for sex or anything else.
Well am less needy now so walking away is easier, don’t know about disappointing people I would aways get guilty but I have defences for getting manipulated now.
22. Be in complete control of yourself and your environment, and YOU will be the one who controls when, how, and with whom you have sex.
I would say I feel more free, before I would think before I speak out of fear of been criticised now I feel like I have more power over my life like I can create my own ending and it’s not at the mercy of some unknown powers.
23. Develop and display a fantastic sense of humor, which will make you socially popular and attractive to others, especially beautiful women.
Yeah I have been making more funnier jokes recently, I was on the phone to the bank a few hours and go and the lady and I had a few laughs. Before I would be thinking about my accent for something.
24. Be entirely comfortable in social situations of any type, whether they are familiar to you or not.
Am more comfortable in my own skin now, I don’t have to “be” anything but what I want be. With the negative voice gone, I don’t know what else can make me feel bad.
25. And do it all while being polite and graceful!
Graceful is a subjective thing isn’t it?
