09-18-2012, 09:41 PM
What a weekend! A good friend of mine is moving across country. He sent his wife and younger kids ahead, so it was only him, his 16yo daughter, his 20yo son, and a friend helping. I could tell when I spoke to him earlier in the week that he was under a LOT of stress, so I told him I had nothing planned this weekend and I'd come up to help if he'd like. He bought me a plane ticket and I spent four days packing boxes and loading a truck. It was HOT out, everything was dirty and dusty, and I got exhausted. It's also one of the best weekends I've had in a long time. The camaraderie was fantastic. It wore out my body, but it nourished my soul.
While traveling to assist my friend, I did not take my stereo with me; instead, I used headphones. HOLY COW what a difference in power. My dreams came back with a force, and 8hrs/day was more than plenty.
I noticed while helping pack boxes and load the truck, I was stepping forward as a leader in the areas where I have experience. My friend has experience in other areas, and there was a smooth exchange of ideas and handing the metaphorical leadership baton back and forth. This is much different from my past, where I'd either follow directions OR be the leader in all things.
Come to think of it, making an impulsive statement about flying hundreds of miles to help a friend move is also unlike my old self. Back then, I believe I'd have comiserated, more than helped.
On Monday, I was chastised by my boss for working remotely for the past two weeks. He was out of town on a business trip, and my office is generally fairly empty. Tumbleweeds outnumber the humans by a fair margin. The part that irritated me is that when I started, he said he did not care where or when I worked, so long as my job was getting done. I'm more effective when working from home than in the office, so it was a no-brainer to save myself commute time.
He acted as though I was screwing around outside the office, not being a professional. I'm now required to get his approval before working remotely. I was surprised how irritated I was with him. I had no patience on the phone, and I did not cower or bow down during his bullying. Instead, I interrupted his tirade, let him know that I was now aware of his new requirements, and that I would comply with them.
I'm feeling a great deal of aggression. I'm not backing down from challenges. My mood is interesting: I'm far more irritable with coworkers and bosses than I was, and I'm still far more patient with my kids than before AM5.
While traveling to assist my friend, I did not take my stereo with me; instead, I used headphones. HOLY COW what a difference in power. My dreams came back with a force, and 8hrs/day was more than plenty.
I noticed while helping pack boxes and load the truck, I was stepping forward as a leader in the areas where I have experience. My friend has experience in other areas, and there was a smooth exchange of ideas and handing the metaphorical leadership baton back and forth. This is much different from my past, where I'd either follow directions OR be the leader in all things.
Come to think of it, making an impulsive statement about flying hundreds of miles to help a friend move is also unlike my old self. Back then, I believe I'd have comiserated, more than helped.
On Monday, I was chastised by my boss for working remotely for the past two weeks. He was out of town on a business trip, and my office is generally fairly empty. Tumbleweeds outnumber the humans by a fair margin. The part that irritated me is that when I started, he said he did not care where or when I worked, so long as my job was getting done. I'm more effective when working from home than in the office, so it was a no-brainer to save myself commute time.
He acted as though I was screwing around outside the office, not being a professional. I'm now required to get his approval before working remotely. I was surprised how irritated I was with him. I had no patience on the phone, and I did not cower or bow down during his bullying. Instead, I interrupted his tirade, let him know that I was now aware of his new requirements, and that I would comply with them.
I'm feeling a great deal of aggression. I'm not backing down from challenges. My mood is interesting: I'm far more irritable with coworkers and bosses than I was, and I'm still far more patient with my kids than before AM5.